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<blockquote data-quote="mrsammler" data-source="post: 435781"><p>Yep. A mention of suicidal ideation or intention merits calling the cops and an involuntary 72-hour psychiatric evaluation in state custody. The next one does too, and the one after that. Let him know, via this experience, that not only does he not get what he wants, but he's taken seriously and he loses freedom for 3 days--every single time. It's a game and a gambit on his part--reduce it to a tiresome, onerous loss of freedom, generated by your compassion and the only viable and useful response to that sort of "threat."</p><p></p><p>difficult children don't change until they're made so uncomfortable by the consequences of their actions that they *want* to change in order to avoid the discomfort--like the rest of us. We change our behavior because we learn to avoid discomfort and seek comfort/pleasure. Don't stand between them and the discomfort they earn. If they blame us for the discomfort they cause for themselves, tough.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mrsammler, post: 435781"] Yep. A mention of suicidal ideation or intention merits calling the cops and an involuntary 72-hour psychiatric evaluation in state custody. The next one does too, and the one after that. Let him know, via this experience, that not only does he not get what he wants, but he's taken seriously and he loses freedom for 3 days--every single time. It's a game and a gambit on his part--reduce it to a tiresome, onerous loss of freedom, generated by your compassion and the only viable and useful response to that sort of "threat." difficult children don't change until they're made so uncomfortable by the consequences of their actions that they *want* to change in order to avoid the discomfort--like the rest of us. We change our behavior because we learn to avoid discomfort and seek comfort/pleasure. Don't stand between them and the discomfort they earn. If they blame us for the discomfort they cause for themselves, tough. [/QUOTE]
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