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13 year old will NOT abide by house rules...HELP!!!!
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<blockquote data-quote="Giulia" data-source="post: 520758" data-attributes="member: 14306"><p>True. </p><p></p><p>What mom did was, instead of removing them or so, directing their use. </p><p>Instead of removing its use, mom used it to tech me what I needed. Like "Once upon a time life", for learning about the human body, or videos for social skills....</p><p></p><p>Later, I use computer, cellphone and so to learn how to repair them. It's even another major responsibility at home I take and I enjoy to take it.</p><p></p><p>As funny as it seems, it was much more efficient for me to redirect its use than removing it in absolute. Removing it in absolute was always a major meltdown trigger, whereas redirecting its use led and still leads to much more positive outcomes. </p><p>I repair the Internet, tv, telephone appliances in this house, I also deal with the hotlines. </p><p></p><p>It's not like with drugs. I think that computer and cellphone can be also very positive teachers, it depends on how do you use it. </p><p></p><p>I am not very hot for a "everything or nothing" when it deals with computer and electronics. I think it, more often than not, leads to more trouble than it solves. </p><p></p><p></p><p>With drugs and alcohol, you can't redirect its use. So there are my very few no no in life. </p><p>The no no is only for what you can't absolutely redirect to more positive use. </p><p>Because be realistic, when you have a food addiction, you can't completely remove food from your life. Same with money (you need money to live/survive), same with clothes shopping.... Since you can't remove them, you have to learn to redirect their use. Much easier said than done, I know.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Giulia, post: 520758, member: 14306"] True. What mom did was, instead of removing them or so, directing their use. Instead of removing its use, mom used it to tech me what I needed. Like "Once upon a time life", for learning about the human body, or videos for social skills.... Later, I use computer, cellphone and so to learn how to repair them. It's even another major responsibility at home I take and I enjoy to take it. As funny as it seems, it was much more efficient for me to redirect its use than removing it in absolute. Removing it in absolute was always a major meltdown trigger, whereas redirecting its use led and still leads to much more positive outcomes. I repair the Internet, tv, telephone appliances in this house, I also deal with the hotlines. It's not like with drugs. I think that computer and cellphone can be also very positive teachers, it depends on how do you use it. I am not very hot for a "everything or nothing" when it deals with computer and electronics. I think it, more often than not, leads to more trouble than it solves. With drugs and alcohol, you can't redirect its use. So there are my very few no no in life. The no no is only for what you can't absolutely redirect to more positive use. Because be realistic, when you have a food addiction, you can't completely remove food from your life. Same with money (you need money to live/survive), same with clothes shopping.... Since you can't remove them, you have to learn to redirect their use. Much easier said than done, I know. [/QUOTE]
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