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13 yr son has episode at the museum today
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 119439" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>In general, my son has learned not to meltdown anymore. He had interventions from early on--even when he had the bipolar diagnosis, we didn't really believe it, so he continued Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) interventions. What helps with my son is NOT making unreasonable transition demands such as, "All right NOW you have to turn off the game." It's more like, "In fifteen minutes you have to turn off the game...in ten minutes you have to turn off the game...in five minutes..." and then if he says, in a panicked voice, "But I have to get to a place where I can save it" I don't take it as defiance. I realize he is honestly panicked. He can get to a place where he can save the game, then he has to get off. We don't throw absolutes at him because they don't work. He may whine for a few seconds, but usually he says, with resignation, "Allr ight, I know." It took us a long time to get there and he doesn't have co-morbid issues, but he does fixate. It's very frustrating, but we have learned to understand that his brain is wired differently so that he isn't going to respond to "normal" parenting and he isn't going to think like a "neurotypical" person. Approaching him differently is very affective. Of course, all kids are different, but I think learning all about Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) is a great start. Too many folks with Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) kids expect normal behavioral interventions to work for them and get frustrated when they don't. You kind of have to understand Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), then you can plan your strategies and help teach your "differently wired" kids how to cope. With us, school has helped enormously with that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 119439, member: 1550"] In general, my son has learned not to meltdown anymore. He had interventions from early on--even when he had the bipolar diagnosis, we didn't really believe it, so he continued Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) interventions. What helps with my son is NOT making unreasonable transition demands such as, "All right NOW you have to turn off the game." It's more like, "In fifteen minutes you have to turn off the game...in ten minutes you have to turn off the game...in five minutes..." and then if he says, in a panicked voice, "But I have to get to a place where I can save it" I don't take it as defiance. I realize he is honestly panicked. He can get to a place where he can save the game, then he has to get off. We don't throw absolutes at him because they don't work. He may whine for a few seconds, but usually he says, with resignation, "Allr ight, I know." It took us a long time to get there and he doesn't have co-morbid issues, but he does fixate. It's very frustrating, but we have learned to understand that his brain is wired differently so that he isn't going to respond to "normal" parenting and he isn't going to think like a "neurotypical" person. Approaching him differently is very affective. Of course, all kids are different, but I think learning all about Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) is a great start. Too many folks with Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) kids expect normal behavioral interventions to work for them and get frustrated when they don't. You kind of have to understand Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), then you can plan your strategies and help teach your "differently wired" kids how to cope. With us, school has helped enormously with that. [/QUOTE]
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