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14 years old and this is normal behavior..NOT
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<blockquote data-quote="mstang67chic" data-source="post: 315306" data-attributes="member: 2459"><p>I've dealt with some of this in the past and still am for a bit of it. I guess I'm a little more hard nosed about some of this stuff because my initial reaction was just a teensy bit harsher than the other responses so far. </p><p></p><p>So...let's break this down.</p><p></p><p>Morning makeup - lock him out. There's no reason he needs to be in there. If he pounds on the door, put a radio in the bathroom with your favorite music and crank it up.</p><p></p><p>Crawling on the hallway floor - Request he moves so he doesn't get stepped on. If he doesn't.....natural consequences....he may get stepped on.</p><p></p><p>Locks the dogs in the bedroom - Who's bedroom? Not just because of this but also due to his lack of respect and regard for everyone and their belongings, you might want to consider putting key locks on internal doors and remove his door. </p><p></p><p>Scratches the paint - He touches it up. If he can't be trusted with wet paint, then he does other chores to work off the cost of paint and someone else doing the labor.</p><p></p><p>Food in his room and in the fan - Remove the fan. If he's destroyed the carpeting that bad, pull it up and replace it with something that won't matter if he ruins it.....indoor/outdoor carpet or the fake grass stuff. For that matter...that's something you can use. If he won't abide by your rules, respect the household and everyone in it, use his own stuff as a consequence. Remove everything from his room, and I mean EVERYTHING, that isnt' a necessity. All he really needs is a mattress, pillow, blanket and his clothes. If he wants his things back, he needs to earn it. The only downside to this is that you a secure space to store his stuff.</p><p></p><p>Slamming the front door - This is a hard one but maybe you could put some sort of doohickey on it to keep it from being slammed. I can picture what I'm talking about but can't think of anything more technical than doohickey.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Otherwise....the only thing that comes to mind is whether or not he's had a neuropsychologist evaluation. If you've tried various medications and treatments and nothing has helped him, maybe you don't have a correct diagnosis. I realize that medications only go so far....as I've told my difficult child, they get you to where you need to be to do the rest yourself. If he's at that point and is REFUSING to do what he needs to....I honestly don't know what will work. We're dealing with that here and I have yet to find a solution to it.</p><p></p><p>Hugs. I get it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mstang67chic, post: 315306, member: 2459"] I've dealt with some of this in the past and still am for a bit of it. I guess I'm a little more hard nosed about some of this stuff because my initial reaction was just a teensy bit harsher than the other responses so far. So...let's break this down. Morning makeup - lock him out. There's no reason he needs to be in there. If he pounds on the door, put a radio in the bathroom with your favorite music and crank it up. Crawling on the hallway floor - Request he moves so he doesn't get stepped on. If he doesn't.....natural consequences....he may get stepped on. Locks the dogs in the bedroom - Who's bedroom? Not just because of this but also due to his lack of respect and regard for everyone and their belongings, you might want to consider putting key locks on internal doors and remove his door. Scratches the paint - He touches it up. If he can't be trusted with wet paint, then he does other chores to work off the cost of paint and someone else doing the labor. Food in his room and in the fan - Remove the fan. If he's destroyed the carpeting that bad, pull it up and replace it with something that won't matter if he ruins it.....indoor/outdoor carpet or the fake grass stuff. For that matter...that's something you can use. If he won't abide by your rules, respect the household and everyone in it, use his own stuff as a consequence. Remove everything from his room, and I mean EVERYTHING, that isnt' a necessity. All he really needs is a mattress, pillow, blanket and his clothes. If he wants his things back, he needs to earn it. The only downside to this is that you a secure space to store his stuff. Slamming the front door - This is a hard one but maybe you could put some sort of doohickey on it to keep it from being slammed. I can picture what I'm talking about but can't think of anything more technical than doohickey. Otherwise....the only thing that comes to mind is whether or not he's had a neuropsychologist evaluation. If you've tried various medications and treatments and nothing has helped him, maybe you don't have a correct diagnosis. I realize that medications only go so far....as I've told my difficult child, they get you to where you need to be to do the rest yourself. If he's at that point and is REFUSING to do what he needs to....I honestly don't know what will work. We're dealing with that here and I have yet to find a solution to it. Hugs. I get it. [/QUOTE]
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