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16 year old son absolutely out of control
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 492113" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am sending hugs and prayers for your entire family. I was the sister of the addict, and I knew years, actually decades, before my parents did. I tried to tell them but they didn't believe me. My father worked in inner city schools iwth kids who were often on drugs and he could not see the signs of addiction in his own son. My brother was an alcoholic at age 12 and was in hsi 30s when he was forced to get sober. </p><p></p><p>This isn't a short process. It will take years. My brother has been sober many years and it didn't fix all his problems. He still goes to meetings even after years of sobriety. He says that one thing that really makes it possible to choose sobriety each day is that he knows he will NEVER have to explain why he needs a sitter on short notice so he can go to a meeting. He understands if my parents can't babysit his daughter due to other plans, but he also knows that they will babysit if it is possible and they won't ask questions. </p><p></p><p>You have to get help yourself. Go to alanon/narcanan meetings and see a therapist and make SURE your kids see therapists too. Once they are old enough for alateen, take your kids to meetings - it will help them too. This is NOT going to skip the younger kids. Don't be sure they don't know what is going on. Chances are they know/have seen a LOT more than you think they have. Your oldest (other than the addicted child) has probably seen more than you have. Check the other kids' rooms. It is CLASSIC to hide your stuff in a sibling's room so that wehn mom and dad search yoru room they don't find things. Check electrical outlets all through the house - including outside. Check inside the air vents too - it is hard for a drug dog to check those when they are up high. Also check any access to the attic/roof area.</p><p></p><p>You are taking good first steps - I hope your addict is able to choose sobriety too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 492113, member: 1233"] I am sending hugs and prayers for your entire family. I was the sister of the addict, and I knew years, actually decades, before my parents did. I tried to tell them but they didn't believe me. My father worked in inner city schools iwth kids who were often on drugs and he could not see the signs of addiction in his own son. My brother was an alcoholic at age 12 and was in hsi 30s when he was forced to get sober. This isn't a short process. It will take years. My brother has been sober many years and it didn't fix all his problems. He still goes to meetings even after years of sobriety. He says that one thing that really makes it possible to choose sobriety each day is that he knows he will NEVER have to explain why he needs a sitter on short notice so he can go to a meeting. He understands if my parents can't babysit his daughter due to other plans, but he also knows that they will babysit if it is possible and they won't ask questions. You have to get help yourself. Go to alanon/narcanan meetings and see a therapist and make SURE your kids see therapists too. Once they are old enough for alateen, take your kids to meetings - it will help them too. This is NOT going to skip the younger kids. Don't be sure they don't know what is going on. Chances are they know/have seen a LOT more than you think they have. Your oldest (other than the addicted child) has probably seen more than you have. Check the other kids' rooms. It is CLASSIC to hide your stuff in a sibling's room so that wehn mom and dad search yoru room they don't find things. Check electrical outlets all through the house - including outside. Check inside the air vents too - it is hard for a drug dog to check those when they are up high. Also check any access to the attic/roof area. You are taking good first steps - I hope your addict is able to choose sobriety too. [/QUOTE]
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