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<blockquote data-quote="username40" data-source="post: 729155" data-attributes="member: 22862"><p>Thanks for all the kind words, I looked for an in the flesh support group for something like this, but had no luck. Mentally I'm coping but barely, I run, eat well, meditate, yoga, anything I can do to escape this nightmare. I just need to know other people are in this position, you feel so alone and like you're the only one dealing with this.</p><p></p><p>My son doesn't work and we haven't given him a penny in years, he got the money to run away by convincing his girlfriend (or one of his girlfriend's) to go with him, she had just had a sweet 16 so had thousands in cash on her. He's a tall and very good looking kid, can be charming, and extremely smart, without even listening or doing anything in class he has straight A's (aside from the 2 incomplete's because he does no work). if he wasn't more than likely antisocial personality with psychopathic tendencies (too young for a formal diagnosis, but this is where he seems to be settling) he would be so successful in life. Honestly I wish I left him in CA, go to a shelter, become a beach bum, and peace.</p><p></p><p>As for schooling, they provide night High School mon-thurs 3:00 - 5:30. The rest of the day his friends come over and he gets high.</p><p></p><p>My wife is where I was 1 1/2 years ago, she now realizes he has serious issues and it's not normal teen angst. She flounders between ignoring him and wanting him out of the house, and kissing his butt, doing him favors and talking about summer vacation with him (he would just ruin it). I am completely done, I hold out zero hope for any relationship with him, or him ever being normal, I know at this point he is what he is. My wife still very much assumes he'll "grow out of it", when really he's "growing into it".</p><p></p><p>The real kick in the ass is my wife (then girlfriend) got pregnant with him when she was just 18. We were in a panic but felt we couldn't have an abortion since we were Catholic and it's just ingrained in us, So we married and lost our youth working menial jobs, living in terrible areas with nothing, on welfare at times I'm not proud to say. We've both worked our way to Master's Degrees (I'm getting my MBA this semester), she's a teacher and I'm an executive IT manager. We grinded our entire lives, for him. And this is what it came to.</p><p></p><p>It's all very depressing, but you have to just accept the situation as it is and find a way to be happy again.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="username40, post: 729155, member: 22862"] Thanks for all the kind words, I looked for an in the flesh support group for something like this, but had no luck. Mentally I'm coping but barely, I run, eat well, meditate, yoga, anything I can do to escape this nightmare. I just need to know other people are in this position, you feel so alone and like you're the only one dealing with this. My son doesn't work and we haven't given him a penny in years, he got the money to run away by convincing his girlfriend (or one of his girlfriend's) to go with him, she had just had a sweet 16 so had thousands in cash on her. He's a tall and very good looking kid, can be charming, and extremely smart, without even listening or doing anything in class he has straight A's (aside from the 2 incomplete's because he does no work). if he wasn't more than likely antisocial personality with psychopathic tendencies (too young for a formal diagnosis, but this is where he seems to be settling) he would be so successful in life. Honestly I wish I left him in CA, go to a shelter, become a beach bum, and peace. As for schooling, they provide night High School mon-thurs 3:00 - 5:30. The rest of the day his friends come over and he gets high. My wife is where I was 1 1/2 years ago, she now realizes he has serious issues and it's not normal teen angst. She flounders between ignoring him and wanting him out of the house, and kissing his butt, doing him favors and talking about summer vacation with him (he would just ruin it). I am completely done, I hold out zero hope for any relationship with him, or him ever being normal, I know at this point he is what he is. My wife still very much assumes he'll "grow out of it", when really he's "growing into it". The real kick in the ass is my wife (then girlfriend) got pregnant with him when she was just 18. We were in a panic but felt we couldn't have an abortion since we were Catholic and it's just ingrained in us, So we married and lost our youth working menial jobs, living in terrible areas with nothing, on welfare at times I'm not proud to say. We've both worked our way to Master's Degrees (I'm getting my MBA this semester), she's a teacher and I'm an executive IT manager. We grinded our entire lives, for him. And this is what it came to. It's all very depressing, but you have to just accept the situation as it is and find a way to be happy again. [/QUOTE]
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