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<blockquote data-quote="GuideMe" data-source="post: 644085" data-attributes="member: 18233"><p>Jenn, honestly, you are doing absolutely amazing. I know you feel guilty, so just feel it out. Remember, teens can play that guilt trip game for a LONG time so don't give into easily or too fast. If he really gets desperate and really and truly has nowhere to sleep, you will know it and then you can deal with that when it arises however you want to. But my advice would be, at least allow him to get desperate, let him get to that point because I can promise you, he is nowhere near it right now. A teens will is very, very, very strong. My mistakes were, I would give in way too fast and way too easily. If my daughter said something like "thanks for letting me sleep out of the cold", I would have been begging her to come back instantaneously. I know... what a sucker I was. I was really, really gullible and forget all about the reason I punished her in the first place. I wouldn't even wait to see if it was really true or not, most of the time, it would not turn out to be true...and I would have egg all over my face and kicking myself repeatedly. It took me a long time to learn this lesson and I am still learning, at least to challenge some of the things she would say or do so she would learn that she couldn't manipulate me very easily.</p><p></p><p>So just see how it goes. I believe you are doing the right thing. Big Hugs!!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="GuideMe, post: 644085, member: 18233"] Jenn, honestly, you are doing absolutely amazing. I know you feel guilty, so just feel it out. Remember, teens can play that guilt trip game for a LONG time so don't give into easily or too fast. If he really gets desperate and really and truly has nowhere to sleep, you will know it and then you can deal with that when it arises however you want to. But my advice would be, at least allow him to get desperate, let him get to that point because I can promise you, he is nowhere near it right now. A teens will is very, very, very strong. My mistakes were, I would give in way too fast and way too easily. If my daughter said something like "thanks for letting me sleep out of the cold", I would have been begging her to come back instantaneously. I know... what a sucker I was. I was really, really gullible and forget all about the reason I punished her in the first place. I wouldn't even wait to see if it was really true or not, most of the time, it would not turn out to be true...and I would have egg all over my face and kicking myself repeatedly. It took me a long time to learn this lesson and I am still learning, at least to challenge some of the things she would say or do so she would learn that she couldn't manipulate me very easily. So just see how it goes. I believe you are doing the right thing. Big Hugs!!!! [/QUOTE]
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