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<blockquote data-quote="country" data-source="post: 708151" data-attributes="member: 20890"><p>Hi everyone.</p><p></p><p>Back again with an update. I keep posting in the same thread so you can look at history our of situation if you desire, and for a diary for me. Hope that is ok.</p><p></p><p>After the saga in January and several in depth "charades" in which he constructed drama situations all built on lies and got multiple close family members involved, we decided what we are doing is not helping. He needs something more. We applied and were accepted to Boystown and he will be moving there soon. He will be living in a Family Home with 8 other boys until he graduates next May.</p><p></p><p>My questions today are about me. I have been holding myself together these 9 months and it is getting more and more difficult. I have not sought therapy since the beginning because I cannot afford to fall apart right now so I've been holding it together until he goes. I am a mess of emotions. Shame, fear, anger, sadness, loss, on and on.</p><p></p><p>My question is: how do we tell people our son is being rehomed to a boys home? I think I have no idea how to come to peace with this situation myself and so cannot formulate my message to "the public" - ie church, random non-close friends, etc.</p><p></p><p>How do you get passed the shame of your loved ones actions? How do you look people in the eye whom your loved one has wronged? How do you forgive yourself for whatever part you played in getting to this point?</p><p></p><p>Thanks to all.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="country, post: 708151, member: 20890"] Hi everyone. Back again with an update. I keep posting in the same thread so you can look at history our of situation if you desire, and for a diary for me. Hope that is ok. After the saga in January and several in depth "charades" in which he constructed drama situations all built on lies and got multiple close family members involved, we decided what we are doing is not helping. He needs something more. We applied and were accepted to Boystown and he will be moving there soon. He will be living in a Family Home with 8 other boys until he graduates next May. My questions today are about me. I have been holding myself together these 9 months and it is getting more and more difficult. I have not sought therapy since the beginning because I cannot afford to fall apart right now so I've been holding it together until he goes. I am a mess of emotions. Shame, fear, anger, sadness, loss, on and on. My question is: how do we tell people our son is being rehomed to a boys home? I think I have no idea how to come to peace with this situation myself and so cannot formulate my message to "the public" - ie church, random non-close friends, etc. How do you get passed the shame of your loved ones actions? How do you look people in the eye whom your loved one has wronged? How do you forgive yourself for whatever part you played in getting to this point? Thanks to all. [/QUOTE]
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