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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 537552" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>yes, they really can kill.....even if they dont mean to...some do mean to. Their conscience is not fully developed (or not at all). Most dont but many hurt like yours and mine. A family in a similar position to you near me (but he is autistic and bipolar) broke his dying mom's arm and the family refused to take him home. (he w as in t he psychiatric hospital) and the county charged them with a bandonment. THey asked f or a voluntary chins petition done and instead it w as m ade out to be t hat t hey had a bandonmed the kid. e ven the DA said after t hat t his w as no t a n a busive f amily but he had to f ight to get the kid home. Sure enough, weeks later he was out and i n Residential Treatment Center (RTC) short t erm again. The county had been asked to help for years and they told the judge t hey were given services. The legal advocate showed the judge the county billing and they had received FIFTEEN minutes of services in the entire year. </p><p></p><p>It is ongoing.</p><p></p><p>I and many others live in counties that do much better. We receive a large amount of services and I know when I am ready to call it quits (for direct service, I will never call it quits on my son but clearly there may be a time he is too much for me) I know he will be placed. If I had other kids he would not be living here. Not because I dont love him but for safety and the other kids mental health. This other family...was told they had to take the difficult child but that they could lose custody of their little kids if difficult child was unsafe....FIGURE THAT OUT!!??</p><p></p><p>Those diagnoses require a very different plan. Sometimes, especially the level of upset you are discussing, means that the child could do better if in a setting where the bonding was not interfering with other things he needs to do (the Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) piece interferes with everything!)....There are people who have functional lives if they dont have to be faced with attaching to and showing empathy for "family"....it is just too much for them.</p><p></p><p>What kind of insurance do you have. I'd be working to get him in a hospital and then residential asap. These Department of Juvenile Justice people are going to be liable for what happens. Is he snowing them? Acting all cooperative so they dont realize how d angerous he i s??? some Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) kids do that. </p><p></p><p>What things have you guys already done with him??? (therapies, treatments, etc....)....any feasible stone unturned??</p><p></p><p>Anyway, really want to welcome you and let you know you are in the right place. Not at all alone!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 537552, member: 12886"] yes, they really can kill.....even if they dont mean to...some do mean to. Their conscience is not fully developed (or not at all). Most dont but many hurt like yours and mine. A family in a similar position to you near me (but he is autistic and bipolar) broke his dying mom's arm and the family refused to take him home. (he w as in t he psychiatric hospital) and the county charged them with a bandonment. THey asked f or a voluntary chins petition done and instead it w as m ade out to be t hat t hey had a bandonmed the kid. e ven the DA said after t hat t his w as no t a n a busive f amily but he had to f ight to get the kid home. Sure enough, weeks later he was out and i n Residential Treatment Center (RTC) short t erm again. The county had been asked to help for years and they told the judge t hey were given services. The legal advocate showed the judge the county billing and they had received FIFTEEN minutes of services in the entire year. It is ongoing. I and many others live in counties that do much better. We receive a large amount of services and I know when I am ready to call it quits (for direct service, I will never call it quits on my son but clearly there may be a time he is too much for me) I know he will be placed. If I had other kids he would not be living here. Not because I dont love him but for safety and the other kids mental health. This other family...was told they had to take the difficult child but that they could lose custody of their little kids if difficult child was unsafe....FIGURE THAT OUT!!?? Those diagnoses require a very different plan. Sometimes, especially the level of upset you are discussing, means that the child could do better if in a setting where the bonding was not interfering with other things he needs to do (the Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) piece interferes with everything!)....There are people who have functional lives if they dont have to be faced with attaching to and showing empathy for "family"....it is just too much for them. What kind of insurance do you have. I'd be working to get him in a hospital and then residential asap. These Department of Juvenile Justice people are going to be liable for what happens. Is he snowing them? Acting all cooperative so they dont realize how d angerous he i s??? some Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) kids do that. What things have you guys already done with him??? (therapies, treatments, etc....)....any feasible stone unturned?? Anyway, really want to welcome you and let you know you are in the right place. Not at all alone! [/QUOTE]
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