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17 year old troubles :(
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<blockquote data-quote="mrsammler" data-source="post: 554481"><p>1 piece of advice: when he comes home, be sure to not only expect an apology but also to levy a punishment for the behavior you've described. Many, many parents of difficult children let them off the hook if/when they resume ordinary (i.e., unobjectionable) behavior (or come home, in your case), as they're so glad that things have returned to normal. The difficult child, however, learns a lesson from this: I can abuse my parents terribly and get away with it scot free, merely by stopping the abusive behavior. He has cussed you and your husband out quite violently, flipped you off, etc--that should not be given a "free pass." </p><p></p><p>I saw my nephew difficult child do this repeatedly: grossly abusive language and behavior, then a full "re-set" with no consequences when he calmed down and returned to behaving inoffensively. And I know that many difficult children do this. It's part of the syndrome and it's part of why their GFGness persists--they learn how to get away with it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mrsammler, post: 554481"] 1 piece of advice: when he comes home, be sure to not only expect an apology but also to levy a punishment for the behavior you've described. Many, many parents of difficult children let them off the hook if/when they resume ordinary (i.e., unobjectionable) behavior (or come home, in your case), as they're so glad that things have returned to normal. The difficult child, however, learns a lesson from this: I can abuse my parents terribly and get away with it scot free, merely by stopping the abusive behavior. He has cussed you and your husband out quite violently, flipped you off, etc--that should not be given a "free pass." I saw my nephew difficult child do this repeatedly: grossly abusive language and behavior, then a full "re-set" with no consequences when he calmed down and returned to behaving inoffensively. And I know that many difficult children do this. It's part of the syndrome and it's part of why their GFGness persists--they learn how to get away with it. [/QUOTE]
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