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17 yr old son doing drugs, hanging w members of a gang in NY
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 675731" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>My experience has been, that if the person is unwilling to change, NOBODY, NO PROGRAM can do any good. If money is tight, don't give up your retirement to try to save your son. When he is ready, he will do it and you will still have money. in my opinion too many people go broke trying to find that magic place to fix somebody else, someone they love who is broken. But not one program can fix a person who doesn't want to cooperate. When/if they are ready, then even a free rehab will do the trick. It's all in their mindset...and how much they are willing to work hard to change their entire life. Many here have spent tons with no results. Many leave the program or run away and we are back where we started.</p><p></p><p>If you are short on money, like me, think about what you can afford. Sending a child to another country seems like A LOT of $$$ that most of us don't have. If you have it, I apologize. And, of course, this is just my own opinion. My daughter quit when she was ready and did not do it in any sort of special school or rehab. She did it because she was sick and tired of the drug life. That's when they all do it. When we don't have to force them and they are ready.</p><p></p><p>Again, this is only my opinion and it is coming from somebody who never could have sent my kid out of the country (nor thought it would help to do so) and whose child did quit. That doesn't make me an expert. Do what feels right for you and what you can afford. I worry about folks going broke and it not helping anyway...</p><p></p><p>That does not mean he has to live at home and abuse you. Most of us have not tolerated that.</p><p></p><p>Hugs for your hurting heart.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 675731, member: 1550"] My experience has been, that if the person is unwilling to change, NOBODY, NO PROGRAM can do any good. If money is tight, don't give up your retirement to try to save your son. When he is ready, he will do it and you will still have money. in my opinion too many people go broke trying to find that magic place to fix somebody else, someone they love who is broken. But not one program can fix a person who doesn't want to cooperate. When/if they are ready, then even a free rehab will do the trick. It's all in their mindset...and how much they are willing to work hard to change their entire life. Many here have spent tons with no results. Many leave the program or run away and we are back where we started. If you are short on money, like me, think about what you can afford. Sending a child to another country seems like A LOT of $$$ that most of us don't have. If you have it, I apologize. And, of course, this is just my own opinion. My daughter quit when she was ready and did not do it in any sort of special school or rehab. She did it because she was sick and tired of the drug life. That's when they all do it. When we don't have to force them and they are ready. Again, this is only my opinion and it is coming from somebody who never could have sent my kid out of the country (nor thought it would help to do so) and whose child did quit. That doesn't make me an expert. Do what feels right for you and what you can afford. I worry about folks going broke and it not helping anyway... That does not mean he has to live at home and abuse you. Most of us have not tolerated that. Hugs for your hurting heart. [/QUOTE]
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