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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 725079" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Xanax is one of the most dangerous drugs you can abuse. You get addicted FAST (less than a week can do it) and the person needs medical attention to detox because just stopping it and you can die. This is serious and not to be coddled or pitied or he COULD die. If he drinks on Xanax, again It can be fatal. Who knows what else he takes? Not something to let slide. AT ALL.</p><p></p><p>I would put my foot down hard...rehab or you are out. Coddling a drug addict just makes them use more and get worse. They take advantage of our compassion.</p><p></p><p>The police will get him one day, with or without you, if he starts driving erratically (as they do in Xanax) he will be busted. I would remove the car. All cars. He should not be on the road in his condition. Don't pay for gas or insurance. Hide the keys.</p><p></p><p>The best advice I can give you is to threaten him to go to a long term rehab to detox and take it from there.</p><p>Social anxiety he can work on after he is clean.</p><p>His changed behavior is due to his apparently severe plunge into dangerous drugs. How does he get Xanax? They are expensive on the street.</p><p>Cut off ALL money or he will buy drugs with each dime you hand out.</p><p>Push only rehab, rehab, rehab. That Xanax needs to get out of his system.</p><p>This is the time you must be strong and take a difficult but life affirming stand. You may well have to kick him out if he refuses help...he needs to get so desperate that he WILL get drug treatment. Staying at home will not cause that motivation in him. Breaking your door is violence. I would have called the cops. He has to be held accountable. I dealt with a meth/cocaine kid and we were tough on her...she quit! Your son is young, like my daughter was. Nip it in the bud. Get tough early, before he is 25 and this is his long term way of life. Early is best. I understand how hard it is. My girl looked half dead and was only 19 when she finally went over the edge and we make her go. It about killed us.</p><p></p><p>She quit and thrived! She didn't like no car, no money, living in her critical, straight arrow brothers cold basement, knowing he would toss her in the street with one infraction. She was afraid to be homeless so she.listened to his strict rules. He was hard, not a comfort to her at all. But...she even stopped cigarettes.</p><p></p><p>Do they always quit and thrive? No! Some need time. Some are addicts until death. But they NEVER thrive when we show pity or weakness for them, and they live at home while self-destructing in comfort. That is the worst. It makes them do their worst, knowing they have a warm home and a rescue Mom right there.</p><p></p><p>Do go to Al Anon or private therapy or both. Go with hub. This is way too hard to navigate alone.</p><p></p><p>Love and hugs!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 725079, member: 1550"] Xanax is one of the most dangerous drugs you can abuse. You get addicted FAST (less than a week can do it) and the person needs medical attention to detox because just stopping it and you can die. This is serious and not to be coddled or pitied or he COULD die. If he drinks on Xanax, again It can be fatal. Who knows what else he takes? Not something to let slide. AT ALL. I would put my foot down hard...rehab or you are out. Coddling a drug addict just makes them use more and get worse. They take advantage of our compassion. The police will get him one day, with or without you, if he starts driving erratically (as they do in Xanax) he will be busted. I would remove the car. All cars. He should not be on the road in his condition. Don't pay for gas or insurance. Hide the keys. The best advice I can give you is to threaten him to go to a long term rehab to detox and take it from there. Social anxiety he can work on after he is clean. His changed behavior is due to his apparently severe plunge into dangerous drugs. How does he get Xanax? They are expensive on the street. Cut off ALL money or he will buy drugs with each dime you hand out. Push only rehab, rehab, rehab. That Xanax needs to get out of his system. This is the time you must be strong and take a difficult but life affirming stand. You may well have to kick him out if he refuses help...he needs to get so desperate that he WILL get drug treatment. Staying at home will not cause that motivation in him. Breaking your door is violence. I would have called the cops. He has to be held accountable. I dealt with a meth/cocaine kid and we were tough on her...she quit! Your son is young, like my daughter was. Nip it in the bud. Get tough early, before he is 25 and this is his long term way of life. Early is best. I understand how hard it is. My girl looked half dead and was only 19 when she finally went over the edge and we make her go. It about killed us. She quit and thrived! She didn't like no car, no money, living in her critical, straight arrow brothers cold basement, knowing he would toss her in the street with one infraction. She was afraid to be homeless so she.listened to his strict rules. He was hard, not a comfort to her at all. But...she even stopped cigarettes. Do they always quit and thrive? No! Some need time. Some are addicts until death. But they NEVER thrive when we show pity or weakness for them, and they live at home while self-destructing in comfort. That is the worst. It makes them do their worst, knowing they have a warm home and a rescue Mom right there. Do go to Al Anon or private therapy or both. Go with hub. This is way too hard to navigate alone. Love and hugs! [/QUOTE]
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