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<blockquote data-quote="Unhappymom" data-source="post: 725080" data-attributes="member: 22591"><p>Your sons behavior was my son 20 years ago. He was defiant, destroyed doors, windows, came after his younger brother with objects. He wanted what he wanted and nothing was going to stop him. The last straw was when he was running after my other son and i stood in his way to protect him. He tossed me aside, and i broke my ankle when i fell. I pressed charges and he was arrested for simple assault. This was the culmination of over 8 years of abuse and threats of harm in my home. We did counseling, medications which he was non compliant. So much more happened over the years leading to my enabling him for the next 20 years.. Now, i am reaping what i have sown. Your son needs to suffer the consequences of his behavior. He cannot destroy your home or disrespect you. If he is not finishing school there needs to be plan in place in order to stay in your home. He needs to be working and start contributing to the household. He needs to learn it costs money to survive. Dont make the mistakes i did. Dont make life so easy for him that he doesnt learn how to survive on his own. Dont allow him to have a sense of entitlement.....this is what i am dealing with now. Ive lost thousands and thousands of dollars of my hard earned money...smoothing out life for him, getting him out of his legal issues...encouraging him to be lazy. He needs to follow your rules or he needs to go. My husband said the same thing 20 years ago. He was right....he made life so miserable for me it was easier for me to just set him up in an apartment....and that snowballed into practically supporting him and his lazy ways for the last 20 years. Amagine working 16 hours a day so your son can sit on his behind and NOT work!!! As for the drugs....did u know if drugs are found in your home, even though they belong to him you are liable? I learned that lesson too! I wish you well, and encourage you to stand with your husband. Together you are strength. I know it sounds terrible bit its the best thing for him and for you. Good luck♡</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Unhappymom, post: 725080, member: 22591"] Your sons behavior was my son 20 years ago. He was defiant, destroyed doors, windows, came after his younger brother with objects. He wanted what he wanted and nothing was going to stop him. The last straw was when he was running after my other son and i stood in his way to protect him. He tossed me aside, and i broke my ankle when i fell. I pressed charges and he was arrested for simple assault. This was the culmination of over 8 years of abuse and threats of harm in my home. We did counseling, medications which he was non compliant. So much more happened over the years leading to my enabling him for the next 20 years.. Now, i am reaping what i have sown. Your son needs to suffer the consequences of his behavior. He cannot destroy your home or disrespect you. If he is not finishing school there needs to be plan in place in order to stay in your home. He needs to be working and start contributing to the household. He needs to learn it costs money to survive. Dont make the mistakes i did. Dont make life so easy for him that he doesnt learn how to survive on his own. Dont allow him to have a sense of entitlement.....this is what i am dealing with now. Ive lost thousands and thousands of dollars of my hard earned money...smoothing out life for him, getting him out of his legal issues...encouraging him to be lazy. He needs to follow your rules or he needs to go. My husband said the same thing 20 years ago. He was right....he made life so miserable for me it was easier for me to just set him up in an apartment....and that snowballed into practically supporting him and his lazy ways for the last 20 years. Amagine working 16 hours a day so your son can sit on his behind and NOT work!!! As for the drugs....did u know if drugs are found in your home, even though they belong to him you are liable? I learned that lesson too! I wish you well, and encourage you to stand with your husband. Together you are strength. I know it sounds terrible bit its the best thing for him and for you. Good luck♡ [/QUOTE]
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