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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 725138" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>My daughters drug of choice was Xanax. She also had "social anxiety disorder." Actually, it was an excuse to abuse benzos and alcohol. She convinced multiple doctors that she needed Xanax so I wouldn't be surprised if he finds a doctor that agrees with him.</p><p></p><p>This all started when my daughter was 18. I hate to scare you but she went down the long road of addiction and got to the point where she was shooting heroin. Surprisingly to me, she told me after she got sober that she would choose Xanax over heroin but would use heroin when she couldn't get her beloved benzos.</p><p></p><p>Unfortunately, we went through hell for ten years thinking we could fix her. It wasn't until two years of therapy that my husband and I were able to set firm boundaries which included cutting off all funds and refusing to let her live with us. It was at that point that she decided she didn't want to live the druggie lifestyle any more and went into her 5th treatment program and got sober. It was followed by a year in a sober living program. She became active in a 12-step group after years of making fun of 12-step groups. She is now a sponsor for others and has been sober for almost two years.</p><p></p><p>So there can be happy endings but don't wait as long as I did. Give your son a clear choice . . . detox, inpatient treatment, then sober living or find himself somewhere else to live. You are not kicking him out. You are giving him options and it is up to him to decide which way he wants to go.</p><p></p><p>After all, if your son doesn't have a problem, he should be able to find a job and live an adult life. If he can't do that, he needs to be in a program that will help him develop those skills. This won't be easy, though. He will up the ante and you will have to stay strong.</p><p></p><p>~Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 725138, member: 1967"] My daughters drug of choice was Xanax. She also had "social anxiety disorder." Actually, it was an excuse to abuse benzos and alcohol. She convinced multiple doctors that she needed Xanax so I wouldn't be surprised if he finds a doctor that agrees with him. This all started when my daughter was 18. I hate to scare you but she went down the long road of addiction and got to the point where she was shooting heroin. Surprisingly to me, she told me after she got sober that she would choose Xanax over heroin but would use heroin when she couldn't get her beloved benzos. Unfortunately, we went through hell for ten years thinking we could fix her. It wasn't until two years of therapy that my husband and I were able to set firm boundaries which included cutting off all funds and refusing to let her live with us. It was at that point that she decided she didn't want to live the druggie lifestyle any more and went into her 5th treatment program and got sober. It was followed by a year in a sober living program. She became active in a 12-step group after years of making fun of 12-step groups. She is now a sponsor for others and has been sober for almost two years. So there can be happy endings but don't wait as long as I did. Give your son a clear choice . . . detox, inpatient treatment, then sober living or find himself somewhere else to live. You are not kicking him out. You are giving him options and it is up to him to decide which way he wants to go. After all, if your son doesn't have a problem, he should be able to find a job and live an adult life. If he can't do that, he needs to be in a program that will help him develop those skills. This won't be easy, though. He will up the ante and you will have to stay strong. ~Kathy [/QUOTE]
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