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19 1/2 Year Old Struggling With Complex Developmental Challenges
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<blockquote data-quote="tbod" data-source="post: 686480" data-attributes="member: 20297"><p>Apple, thanks for your thoughts. Good questions as well. Its been a long while since he's been to a psychiatrist...and was about about 7 or 8 at the time...probably too young to get too accurate an assessment. But, they were very willing to put him on medications....which kind of didn't make sense to me as there wasn't a definitive diagnosis...so how did they know what to put him on??! So, of the testing that was done then...they made the determination that he was AD/HD as well as Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) not otherwise specified..and I knew there was much more to what was going on in his mind than that. Also, some of these medications were hypertrophic drugs and only made my son's situation worse. So, instead of just having angry thoughts...he would begin to act on them as well. That tells me there is much more going on. His current psychologist is certain that he has pre-frontal cortex issues...and asked if we were aware of any brain injuries or falls he may have had. Scary. This explains the social developmental delays and anger over rather minor things, impulsivity, not reading social queues...and the rest. What I see these days is great difficulty in him managing anger over rather minor issues as well as working himself up through verbal dialogues that he has that are usually negative and many times violent sounding. When he is calm..he's fine...but when he's not...he's like a very shady, angry guy lurking in the shadows who is easily angered/set off. All that said, I did put a contract together with curfews and rules and he seems to be abiding by that which was absolutely necessary for my sanity if not for anything else. So, I know he can follow rules. I'm certain without them...he wouldn't be capable of parenting himself at all...or to the degree that he could really function on his own. Way behind his peers socially and every other way. Cant relate to people very well. I don't think he's choosing to live the way he does...but clearly is not interested in exerting himself enough to help himself enough to make a difference. He was not adopted. And I'm not sure if he'd be up for any more testing if we were to find another psychiatrist. This evening was a bad one. He left his cell phone in mom's car and forgot to take it with him when dropped off a evening HS. I picked him up after school and he was extremely angry that mom didn't turn the car around and come back to the school and drop his phone off with the school. wouldnt let the issue go. She was at work and nothing could be done about it until she came home from work with his phone. He just blew up over this for the next hour. Wanted to throttle him. He finally calmed down...but I tell you..it was basically just one big ugly trantrum....from a t 19.5 yr old young adult. Didn't want to take any responsibility over having forgotten it and just wanted to blame mom for not turning around and brining his phone to him. Talk about issues.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="tbod, post: 686480, member: 20297"] Apple, thanks for your thoughts. Good questions as well. Its been a long while since he's been to a psychiatrist...and was about about 7 or 8 at the time...probably too young to get too accurate an assessment. But, they were very willing to put him on medications....which kind of didn't make sense to me as there wasn't a definitive diagnosis...so how did they know what to put him on??! So, of the testing that was done then...they made the determination that he was AD/HD as well as Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) not otherwise specified..and I knew there was much more to what was going on in his mind than that. Also, some of these medications were hypertrophic drugs and only made my son's situation worse. So, instead of just having angry thoughts...he would begin to act on them as well. That tells me there is much more going on. His current psychologist is certain that he has pre-frontal cortex issues...and asked if we were aware of any brain injuries or falls he may have had. Scary. This explains the social developmental delays and anger over rather minor things, impulsivity, not reading social queues...and the rest. What I see these days is great difficulty in him managing anger over rather minor issues as well as working himself up through verbal dialogues that he has that are usually negative and many times violent sounding. When he is calm..he's fine...but when he's not...he's like a very shady, angry guy lurking in the shadows who is easily angered/set off. All that said, I did put a contract together with curfews and rules and he seems to be abiding by that which was absolutely necessary for my sanity if not for anything else. So, I know he can follow rules. I'm certain without them...he wouldn't be capable of parenting himself at all...or to the degree that he could really function on his own. Way behind his peers socially and every other way. Cant relate to people very well. I don't think he's choosing to live the way he does...but clearly is not interested in exerting himself enough to help himself enough to make a difference. He was not adopted. And I'm not sure if he'd be up for any more testing if we were to find another psychiatrist. This evening was a bad one. He left his cell phone in mom's car and forgot to take it with him when dropped off a evening HS. I picked him up after school and he was extremely angry that mom didn't turn the car around and come back to the school and drop his phone off with the school. wouldnt let the issue go. She was at work and nothing could be done about it until she came home from work with his phone. He just blew up over this for the next hour. Wanted to throttle him. He finally calmed down...but I tell you..it was basically just one big ugly trantrum....from a t 19.5 yr old young adult. Didn't want to take any responsibility over having forgotten it and just wanted to blame mom for not turning around and brining his phone to him. Talk about issues. [/QUOTE]
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