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2 of difficult child's ex friends got kicked out of school
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 520808" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Guilia, we have a similar phrase in Australia - "You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar."</p><p></p><p>Terry, you can only do so much. Some of this behaviour is typical teen. At least he told you about his friend's drug use and cut all contact. That shows that your values are rubbing off.</p><p></p><p>Increasingly, I'm dumping choices and responsibility back onto difficult child 3. He has one last assessment task to do, he has until Thursday, he will be too busy Mon, Tues and Wed. Did he do any work yesterday? No. How much did he do on Friday? ONE problem. But instead of rousing him out of bed at 6 am and having him angry, resentful and oppositional all day, I ask him the night before, "What time do you want me to wake you in the morning? What is your plan for the day? Does it include time to get some work done too?" Then I remind him of his plan.</p><p>And Monday when he comes home from college at lunchtime, SpEd will be on the phone to him, nagging...</p><p></p><p>We find gaming seduces the kid away from responsibility. As I've explained to both boys, gaming is designed to keep you playing. Although there are some games I've found on FB (and difficult child 3 is starting to appreciate these) where you run out of time or points, and have to wait until they fill back up again. So the game itself throws you off until later. Good programming!</p><p></p><p>difficult child 3 is currently most distracted by instant messaging. But it's hard to be critical, when it's teaching him social interaction. He's still got a lot to learn.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes I wish he had two heads so I could bang 'em together...</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 520808, member: 1991"] Guilia, we have a similar phrase in Australia - "You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar." Terry, you can only do so much. Some of this behaviour is typical teen. At least he told you about his friend's drug use and cut all contact. That shows that your values are rubbing off. Increasingly, I'm dumping choices and responsibility back onto difficult child 3. He has one last assessment task to do, he has until Thursday, he will be too busy Mon, Tues and Wed. Did he do any work yesterday? No. How much did he do on Friday? ONE problem. But instead of rousing him out of bed at 6 am and having him angry, resentful and oppositional all day, I ask him the night before, "What time do you want me to wake you in the morning? What is your plan for the day? Does it include time to get some work done too?" Then I remind him of his plan. And Monday when he comes home from college at lunchtime, SpEd will be on the phone to him, nagging... We find gaming seduces the kid away from responsibility. As I've explained to both boys, gaming is designed to keep you playing. Although there are some games I've found on FB (and difficult child 3 is starting to appreciate these) where you run out of time or points, and have to wait until they fill back up again. So the game itself throws you off until later. Good programming! difficult child 3 is currently most distracted by instant messaging. But it's hard to be critical, when it's teaching him social interaction. He's still got a lot to learn. Sometimes I wish he had two heads so I could bang 'em together... Marg [/QUOTE]
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