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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 541634"><p>Hi Rb..... oh it is so hard to know what to do. You are right at age 20 you cannot force him. Some people do an intervention which can sometimes help I think, but in my opinion there would have to be other people who are being affected by his drug use to make an intervention really effective.</p><p></p><p>I think it is positive that he has a job, is living on his own, and even wants you to help him save some money. Those are all positive signs.</p><p></p><p>I think your telling him your concerns and that you will help him get help is a good thing to do... and is the message you want to send. In my opinion though it does have to be his choice. No you can't force him into treatment. The only way you can push them towards treatment is to stop enabling them... and sometimes this means letting go and like you said waiting... and it is one of the scariest things as a parent that you have to do. I know I have been there... we have had to let my son be homeless 3 times... let him live on the street until he got desperate enough to come in from the boredom of street living and get help. And he messed up a lot in the process as you may have read in my posts.</p><p></p><p>As far as the car... who owns the car and pays insurance? If you do then yes take away the car. If he does then I am not sure how you can do that. Although if he leaves your house and you beileve he is high then calling the police would be a good thing to do.</p><p></p><p>It is tough place to be. I am glad you found us.</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 541634"] Hi Rb..... oh it is so hard to know what to do. You are right at age 20 you cannot force him. Some people do an intervention which can sometimes help I think, but in my opinion there would have to be other people who are being affected by his drug use to make an intervention really effective. I think it is positive that he has a job, is living on his own, and even wants you to help him save some money. Those are all positive signs. I think your telling him your concerns and that you will help him get help is a good thing to do... and is the message you want to send. In my opinion though it does have to be his choice. No you can't force him into treatment. The only way you can push them towards treatment is to stop enabling them... and sometimes this means letting go and like you said waiting... and it is one of the scariest things as a parent that you have to do. I know I have been there... we have had to let my son be homeless 3 times... let him live on the street until he got desperate enough to come in from the boredom of street living and get help. And he messed up a lot in the process as you may have read in my posts. As far as the car... who owns the car and pays insurance? If you do then yes take away the car. If he does then I am not sure how you can do that. Although if he leaves your house and you beileve he is high then calling the police would be a good thing to do. It is tough place to be. I am glad you found us. TL [/QUOTE]
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