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<blockquote data-quote="Kalahou" data-source="post: 692809" data-attributes="member: 19617"><p>Hello Night Owl Mama,</p><p></p><p>Yes, this is definitely the right place for you to come with your story. You have come to the right place. Welcome to the forum, although I’m sorry for the reason you had to find us. We are all here because of difficult adult children.</p><p></p><p>This is a safe place with a lot of support and everyone here understands. You are not alone. Your story sounds so similar to so many heard on this site. You will learn a lot and gain support and comfort from reading other people’s threads here, who have gone through similar situations.</p><p></p><p>One of the first places to start is to read the article on Detachment at the top of this forum. You can learn to start detachment (emotional detachment, detachment from the outcome, detachment from enabling and providing…. etc. Here is the link to the article. <a href="http://www.conductdisorders.com/community/threads/article-on-detachment.53639/#axzz4CeyCs0QM" target="_blank">http://www.conductdisorders.com/community/threads/article-on-detachment.53639/#axzz4CeyCs0QM</a></p><p></p><p></p><p>As you have experienced already, your relationship with your son and his behavior are better when he is not in your home. Yes. Many of us here have learned that. This is OK. It has nothing to do with you. Most all our difficult children (<em>the children that we discuss on this forum</em>) do better when they are not in our home. Leaving our home / being out of our homes is the only way for many of them to take their own necessary responsibility for their lives, even if it means being homeless and hungry.</p><p></p><p>Your son has now left on his own. It is alright. He will be alright. Release him, and think / know that you are giving him the freedom to try his wings. Breathe. Slow - way- down. Stay calm with detachment and confidence that he will find his way. The best thing you can do for him now is to take care of yourself and your other children.</p><p></p><p>Yes. You are spot on Night Owl. You definitely have an understanding of what is happening and see how you may be enabling the destructive behavior. You show your strength through your pain and heartache. We hear you. We've been there also. We are with you here. Stay with us and keep posting and reading the other’s threads. There is a wealth of wisdom in the old and new threads on this site. It all helps ~ one day at a time. More folks will be along to share in support and provide their wisdom and guidance.</p><p>Take each day as it comes. You are going to be alright. Take care. Kalahou</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kalahou, post: 692809, member: 19617"] Hello Night Owl Mama, Yes, this is definitely the right place for you to come with your story. You have come to the right place. Welcome to the forum, although I’m sorry for the reason you had to find us. We are all here because of difficult adult children. This is a safe place with a lot of support and everyone here understands. You are not alone. Your story sounds so similar to so many heard on this site. You will learn a lot and gain support and comfort from reading other people’s threads here, who have gone through similar situations. One of the first places to start is to read the article on Detachment at the top of this forum. You can learn to start detachment (emotional detachment, detachment from the outcome, detachment from enabling and providing…. etc. Here is the link to the article. [URL]http://www.conductdisorders.com/community/threads/article-on-detachment.53639/#axzz4CeyCs0QM[/URL] As you have experienced already, your relationship with your son and his behavior are better when he is not in your home. Yes. Many of us here have learned that. This is OK. It has nothing to do with you. Most all our difficult children ([I]the children that we discuss on this forum[/I]) do better when they are not in our home. Leaving our home / being out of our homes is the only way for many of them to take their own necessary responsibility for their lives, even if it means being homeless and hungry. Your son has now left on his own. It is alright. He will be alright. Release him, and think / know that you are giving him the freedom to try his wings. Breathe. Slow - way- down. Stay calm with detachment and confidence that he will find his way. The best thing you can do for him now is to take care of yourself and your other children. Yes. You are spot on Night Owl. You definitely have an understanding of what is happening and see how you may be enabling the destructive behavior. You show your strength through your pain and heartache. We hear you. We've been there also. We are with you here. Stay with us and keep posting and reading the other’s threads. There is a wealth of wisdom in the old and new threads on this site. It all helps ~ one day at a time. More folks will be along to share in support and provide their wisdom and guidance. Take each day as it comes. You are going to be alright. Take care. Kalahou [/QUOTE]
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