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20 Year Old Son Using/Selling Drugs But...goes to school and has a great job
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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 574721" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>OK I have many jumbled thoughts on this.... my first thought is for the two of you to get yourself to a parents alanon group if you can find one. We have been going to one and it has been a great help to me. You may have read my story on this forum and so may know that my son was homeless for the last 4 months and just got himself into treatment. Having a kid who is homelss on the streets takes it toll on you and is just heartbreaking and so a part of me wants to tell you to avoid that if possible.... only because it is so hard. And yet in our case I know letting my son be homeless was the right thing to do because he had to find his own way and this is his journey, and enabling him was not going to help him. And he finally did hit bottom and went for help. Time will tell if this was the final bottom.</p><p></p><p>Your son sounds more responsible than my son in that he is going to school and working and so is more successful in life right now... that is a good thing. I can see why you do not want to jepordize any of that. However selling drugs is a serious crime and he could end up in serious trouble if it continues.... so he is putting his own future in jepordy, and there may be nothing you can do to prevent that. Letting him continue to live in your house knowing he is selling drugs, puts you at risk but also enables him to continue on this path.</p><p></p><p>So I think you are doing the right thing by sticking to the consequences and rules you have laid out... but realize that by following through it may be a tough road for you for a while, and it may take him a while to turn things around. And it may get worse before it gets better... that is the hard part. Get as much support as you can and hopefully your son will figure out quite quickly that the path he is on will lead him quickly to nowhere.</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 574721, member: 15801"] OK I have many jumbled thoughts on this.... my first thought is for the two of you to get yourself to a parents alanon group if you can find one. We have been going to one and it has been a great help to me. You may have read my story on this forum and so may know that my son was homeless for the last 4 months and just got himself into treatment. Having a kid who is homelss on the streets takes it toll on you and is just heartbreaking and so a part of me wants to tell you to avoid that if possible.... only because it is so hard. And yet in our case I know letting my son be homeless was the right thing to do because he had to find his own way and this is his journey, and enabling him was not going to help him. And he finally did hit bottom and went for help. Time will tell if this was the final bottom. Your son sounds more responsible than my son in that he is going to school and working and so is more successful in life right now... that is a good thing. I can see why you do not want to jepordize any of that. However selling drugs is a serious crime and he could end up in serious trouble if it continues.... so he is putting his own future in jepordy, and there may be nothing you can do to prevent that. Letting him continue to live in your house knowing he is selling drugs, puts you at risk but also enables him to continue on this path. So I think you are doing the right thing by sticking to the consequences and rules you have laid out... but realize that by following through it may be a tough road for you for a while, and it may take him a while to turn things around. And it may get worse before it gets better... that is the hard part. Get as much support as you can and hopefully your son will figure out quite quickly that the path he is on will lead him quickly to nowhere. TL [/QUOTE]
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