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20 Year Old Son Using/Selling Drugs But...goes to school and has a great job
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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 575260"><p>Rudy, you're in the home stretch. He's a college senior with excellent grades, he's mature, has never misbehaved, has no brushes with the law, is seeing a counselor at school and you don't think he used while at home over break?? You've drawn a line in the sand that he is in his own if he gets in legal trouble... </p><p></p><p>I don't mean to be glib... But I'd leave well enough alone. A college senior; so he is an adult. While I realize and validate your concerns with using and driving; I would express those to him and NOT abruptly take away his car. in my opinion, it's too late in the game to change the rules and the goal is in sight! He'll graduate soon and then it's a natural transition for him to become self supporting. Many people use marijuana recreationally and are ok- just like many people can drink socially and be ok. You are not seeing other signs of addiction and a great many young adults outgrow their youthful transgressions. I hate marijuana and dont excuse the illegality of it, but its socially acceptable in many circles and is legal in increasing states.</p><p> </p><p>It may be a good time to review with him the career/future altering potential impact of a an "OWI" or a possession charge. And remind him that job offers may likely include drug testing... My h is in sales and just had to take a drug test...</p><p></p><p>Again, I empathize with your concerns. But there's a real risk that a sudden, strong reaction will seem strictly punitive to him and could be an over-reaction and/or throw him from the frying pan into the fire. We took a very strong line with our 20 yo and it backfired in many ways. I wouldn't risk it when your son seems to be thriving.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 575260"] Rudy, you're in the home stretch. He's a college senior with excellent grades, he's mature, has never misbehaved, has no brushes with the law, is seeing a counselor at school and you don't think he used while at home over break?? You've drawn a line in the sand that he is in his own if he gets in legal trouble... I don't mean to be glib... But I'd leave well enough alone. A college senior; so he is an adult. While I realize and validate your concerns with using and driving; I would express those to him and NOT abruptly take away his car. in my opinion, it's too late in the game to change the rules and the goal is in sight! He'll graduate soon and then it's a natural transition for him to become self supporting. Many people use marijuana recreationally and are ok- just like many people can drink socially and be ok. You are not seeing other signs of addiction and a great many young adults outgrow their youthful transgressions. I hate marijuana and dont excuse the illegality of it, but its socially acceptable in many circles and is legal in increasing states. It may be a good time to review with him the career/future altering potential impact of a an "OWI" or a possession charge. And remind him that job offers may likely include drug testing... My h is in sales and just had to take a drug test... Again, I empathize with your concerns. But there's a real risk that a sudden, strong reaction will seem strictly punitive to him and could be an over-reaction and/or throw him from the frying pan into the fire. We took a very strong line with our 20 yo and it backfired in many ways. I wouldn't risk it when your son seems to be thriving. [/QUOTE]
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