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20 yo still at home, no job - desperate mother!
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 704343" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Keeping your son at home a day or more won't change anything. Nothing will unless he decides to change. And nothing will stop him from changing for the better if he wants to.</p><p></p><p>Often we forget that our adult kids are not us and, if rebellious, are not interested in a conventional life. We can't force it. If your son doesn't want to work, no deadline will make him comply. If he decides on his own one day that life is horrible and he wants a job, likely he will find a more sustainable one than delivering papers. Once the will is there, the desire to do better kicks in...they are not just pacifying Mom. It always feels better if a person does something for himself</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Being on the streets is no guarantee of success but I have been on this forum many years and many of our adult kids DO decide to get it together on the streets.</p><p></p><p>If you set up boundaries, I do think it's best to follow through, but I think dates can be flexible by a few days.</p><p></p><p>Wishing you the strength and courage you will need and hoping for the best.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 704343, member: 1550"] Keeping your son at home a day or more won't change anything. Nothing will unless he decides to change. And nothing will stop him from changing for the better if he wants to. Often we forget that our adult kids are not us and, if rebellious, are not interested in a conventional life. We can't force it. If your son doesn't want to work, no deadline will make him comply. If he decides on his own one day that life is horrible and he wants a job, likely he will find a more sustainable one than delivering papers. Once the will is there, the desire to do better kicks in...they are not just pacifying Mom. It always feels better if a person does something for himself Being on the streets is no guarantee of success but I have been on this forum many years and many of our adult kids DO decide to get it together on the streets. If you set up boundaries, I do think it's best to follow through, but I think dates can be flexible by a few days. Wishing you the strength and courage you will need and hoping for the best. [/QUOTE]
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