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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 704389" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Oh Hilli, many, many people don't understand the choices we have to make here. I'm sorry your parents don't understand, that is often how this plays out, we are alone in our convictions. Being alone in our convictions doesn't mean that our convictions are incorrect, it does mean however, that if we feel we are right in our convictions then we have to stand strong. </p><p></p><p>Your parents may never understand, they may always question your choices, but they are not living in your shoes......you are......we are.....around here we are forced to make choices that are often misunderstood or railed against. Stand up for yourself Hilli. You know in your heart what the correct thing to do is, do not allow others to dissuade you from your path. This is very, very hard, but you are doing it. </p><p></p><p>You don't have to explain it any further to your parents, you can let it go for now.....they have the right to disagree and you have the right to allow them to disagree without caving. </p><p></p><p>Doing the "right" thing is often an unpopular choice, however, when others disagree it can also be the catalyst that increases the strength we require to make the hard choices. You're changing an unhealthy pattern here with your son, as you stand strong, you give him the opportunity to learn his own strengths, you give him the chance to learn he can live his own life. You've pushed the young bird out of the nest, now allow him to learn to fly with his own wings.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 704389, member: 13542"] Oh Hilli, many, many people don't understand the choices we have to make here. I'm sorry your parents don't understand, that is often how this plays out, we are alone in our convictions. Being alone in our convictions doesn't mean that our convictions are incorrect, it does mean however, that if we feel we are right in our convictions then we have to stand strong. Your parents may never understand, they may always question your choices, but they are not living in your shoes......you are......we are.....around here we are forced to make choices that are often misunderstood or railed against. Stand up for yourself Hilli. You know in your heart what the correct thing to do is, do not allow others to dissuade you from your path. This is very, very hard, but you are doing it. You don't have to explain it any further to your parents, you can let it go for now.....they have the right to disagree and you have the right to allow them to disagree without caving. Doing the "right" thing is often an unpopular choice, however, when others disagree it can also be the catalyst that increases the strength we require to make the hard choices. You're changing an unhealthy pattern here with your son, as you stand strong, you give him the opportunity to learn his own strengths, you give him the chance to learn he can live his own life. You've pushed the young bird out of the nest, now allow him to learn to fly with his own wings. [/QUOTE]
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