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21 year old son in and out of house
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<blockquote data-quote="youngmomwithadultson" data-source="post: 632755" data-attributes="member: 18247"><p>Thank you for responding! I read a lot of your posts and find you have much experience and wisdom that I find comforting. That scares me a little because I don't like to put that on people. (my search for comfort) its kind of like a person drowning (me), you can annoyingly scratch your lifeguard while searching for breath. I see clearly, you won't let anyone take you under but I think you get my point. I find it hard to be a mother at 38 to a man at 21 because when I search for "like" experiences there really isn't much, however I also have a gift. I get to have the gift of your wisdom and experience. I hope that's not offensive because it surely is not meant to be.</p><p> </p><p> I think your point is that I can't live my life according to other people's standards. You can read these words from a list of motivational speakers forums but they don't mean much until you live them like you have. I'm living them now too.</p><p> </p><p>The answers to everyone of your questions really comes down to one main thing, to appease everyone else's judgment, his, my families, what i consider the public's, but in the end what i have done is damage my health and my relationships and my stability.</p><p> </p><p> I do not believe that allowing him to continue to live with us, and continuing to support his financial needs, or continuing to tolerate his manipulation will benefit him, and so i start my journey towards my own independence or detachment because its only ME i can control.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="youngmomwithadultson, post: 632755, member: 18247"] Thank you for responding! I read a lot of your posts and find you have much experience and wisdom that I find comforting. That scares me a little because I don't like to put that on people. (my search for comfort) its kind of like a person drowning (me), you can annoyingly scratch your lifeguard while searching for breath. I see clearly, you won't let anyone take you under but I think you get my point. I find it hard to be a mother at 38 to a man at 21 because when I search for "like" experiences there really isn't much, however I also have a gift. I get to have the gift of your wisdom and experience. I hope that's not offensive because it surely is not meant to be. I think your point is that I can't live my life according to other people's standards. You can read these words from a list of motivational speakers forums but they don't mean much until you live them like you have. I'm living them now too. The answers to everyone of your questions really comes down to one main thing, to appease everyone else's judgment, his, my families, what i consider the public's, but in the end what i have done is damage my health and my relationships and my stability. I do not believe that allowing him to continue to live with us, and continuing to support his financial needs, or continuing to tolerate his manipulation will benefit him, and so i start my journey towards my own independence or detachment because its only ME i can control. [/QUOTE]
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