Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
22 year old son brings home new girlfriend of 3 weeks and she is sleeping in his bed
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="dashcat" data-source="post: 390946" data-attributes="member: 9175"><p>I sympathize with you .... I have an X who has very lax, and sometimes frankly crazy, standards for our difficult child in his home. She lives with him (she's 19 and only works about 20 hours per week, pays rent and does very minimal chores there) but spends every other weekend with me. She ocmes and goes as she pleases there, has guys in the house when he's not home...and I'm talking total strangers .... had her boyfriend in the bedroom last week when he came home......crazy. I made it very clear that I don't give a rat's patootie what his "rules" are, in my home she will abide by my rules and those rules include absolutely no guys in the bedroom. Period. Also, for now at least, she cannot have any members of the opposite sex in my house when I'm not here. The reasoning for that, unfortunately, is she tends to meet them online and I don't want strangers in my home. I would bend on this if she ever found herself in a long term relationship.</p><p> </p><p>Anyway, I explained that it's like the laws varying from state to state. You obey the law of the state or country you're in and it really doesn't matter what the law happens to be in the state you just left. </p><p> </p><p>I've also told her: "This is your HOME but it's my HOUSE." </p><p> </p><p>With our adult difficult child's, we've all had to choose our battles. In the end, do what you feel is best ... but don't allow him to bully you or wear you down with his inane claims that paying rent entitles him to his own fifedom. </p><p> </p><p>Dash</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dashcat, post: 390946, member: 9175"] I sympathize with you .... I have an X who has very lax, and sometimes frankly crazy, standards for our difficult child in his home. She lives with him (she's 19 and only works about 20 hours per week, pays rent and does very minimal chores there) but spends every other weekend with me. She ocmes and goes as she pleases there, has guys in the house when he's not home...and I'm talking total strangers .... had her boyfriend in the bedroom last week when he came home......crazy. I made it very clear that I don't give a rat's patootie what his "rules" are, in my home she will abide by my rules and those rules include absolutely no guys in the bedroom. Period. Also, for now at least, she cannot have any members of the opposite sex in my house when I'm not here. The reasoning for that, unfortunately, is she tends to meet them online and I don't want strangers in my home. I would bend on this if she ever found herself in a long term relationship. Anyway, I explained that it's like the laws varying from state to state. You obey the law of the state or country you're in and it really doesn't matter what the law happens to be in the state you just left. I've also told her: "This is your HOME but it's my HOUSE." With our adult difficult child's, we've all had to choose our battles. In the end, do what you feel is best ... but don't allow him to bully you or wear you down with his inane claims that paying rent entitles him to his own fifedom. Dash [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
22 year old son brings home new girlfriend of 3 weeks and she is sleeping in his bed
Top