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22 year old son brings home new girlfriend of 3 weeks and she is sleeping in his bed
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<blockquote data-quote="donna723" data-source="post: 391046" data-attributes="member: 1883"><p>I'm with the rest of them - your house, your rules! He gets away with (sometimes) paying "rent" that doesn't even cover the cost of the food he eats, and then he has the nerve to tell you that "You better get used to it" about having the girlfriend there? If my own son had ever had the nerve to say that to me, he would have found his butt, bags, and girlfriend kicked to the curb so fast his head would be spinning! And doing chores doesn't count ... that's something you do as a member of the household. That doesn't help pay the bills.</p><p> </p><p>You are, for all practical purposes, supporting a 22 year old grown man who is working full time while still enjoying all the benefits of living at home! If the girlfriend is moving in, will you be supporting her too? Is she eating your food, using your utilities? I really think you need to have one of those "Come to Jesus" meetings and give this young man a HUGE dose of reality, layout your rules and make it clear to him that he will have to abide by them or move out! Does he have any idea how expensive it would be for him if he had to get his own place, pay all the bills himself? Your house, your rules, not his! If you are not comfortable with the girlfriend being there, then she's OUT! Not his choice, it's <u>yours</u>! And at his age, with a full time job, he should be paying a fair amount of rent, enough that it really covers your extra expenses for having him there, not just a token $25 that he may or may not pay as he chooses. It doesn't work that way in the real world and he needs to find that out. I know how hard it is, especially with a soon-to-be ex working against you, but you're not doing your son or yourself any favors by continuing your current arrangement.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="donna723, post: 391046, member: 1883"] I'm with the rest of them - your house, your rules! He gets away with (sometimes) paying "rent" that doesn't even cover the cost of the food he eats, and then he has the nerve to tell you that "You better get used to it" about having the girlfriend there? If my own son had ever had the nerve to say that to me, he would have found his butt, bags, and girlfriend kicked to the curb so fast his head would be spinning! And doing chores doesn't count ... that's something you do as a member of the household. That doesn't help pay the bills. You are, for all practical purposes, supporting a 22 year old grown man who is working full time while still enjoying all the benefits of living at home! If the girlfriend is moving in, will you be supporting her too? Is she eating your food, using your utilities? I really think you need to have one of those "Come to Jesus" meetings and give this young man a HUGE dose of reality, layout your rules and make it clear to him that he will have to abide by them or move out! Does he have any idea how expensive it would be for him if he had to get his own place, pay all the bills himself? Your house, your rules, not his! If you are not comfortable with the girlfriend being there, then she's OUT! Not his choice, it's [U]yours[/U]! And at his age, with a full time job, he should be paying a fair amount of rent, enough that it really covers your extra expenses for having him there, not just a token $25 that he may or may not pay as he chooses. It doesn't work that way in the real world and he needs to find that out. I know how hard it is, especially with a soon-to-be ex working against you, but you're not doing your son or yourself any favors by continuing your current arrangement. [/QUOTE]
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