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23 year old son returning to college--very anxious
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<blockquote data-quote="savior no more" data-source="post: 697172" data-attributes="member: 19838"><p>Dear aging-</p><p>I'm sorry you have been through both mental illness and substance use with your son. I have had both a niece and a nephew who had to drop out of college due to depression but both returned. One is still in college and the other graduated. The one that graduated used drugs heavily all during college but was able to pull it together and get a degree. She since has gone to treatment and started making better choices. The fact that your son has the motivation to go and has made grades is a good sign. Obviously the marijuana doesn't help his depression, but I can see why the psychologist is encouraging him to finish school. Success always helps fill a gap with more options. His depression is real and hopefully with the boundaries of no extra $$ he will be able to complete school and have limited access to the marijuana. Only when he decides marijuana is a problem will he be willing to look at it's affect on his life no matter how much you think it is a problem or want him to see it. I related to child of mine's story - I used to tell my son that meth was evil and to promise me that he would NEVER do it. How in the world when he was a sickly, skinny kid could I not see the obvious? Of course he would tell me no because I left him no other choice. Keep reading and learning about detachment becuase in the end for me detaching with loving interaction with my Difficult Child has helped me lessen the anxiety.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="savior no more, post: 697172, member: 19838"] Dear aging- I'm sorry you have been through both mental illness and substance use with your son. I have had both a niece and a nephew who had to drop out of college due to depression but both returned. One is still in college and the other graduated. The one that graduated used drugs heavily all during college but was able to pull it together and get a degree. She since has gone to treatment and started making better choices. The fact that your son has the motivation to go and has made grades is a good sign. Obviously the marijuana doesn't help his depression, but I can see why the psychologist is encouraging him to finish school. Success always helps fill a gap with more options. His depression is real and hopefully with the boundaries of no extra $$ he will be able to complete school and have limited access to the marijuana. Only when he decides marijuana is a problem will he be willing to look at it's affect on his life no matter how much you think it is a problem or want him to see it. I related to child of mine's story - I used to tell my son that meth was evil and to promise me that he would NEVER do it. How in the world when he was a sickly, skinny kid could I not see the obvious? Of course he would tell me no because I left him no other choice. Keep reading and learning about detachment becuase in the end for me detaching with loving interaction with my Difficult Child has helped me lessen the anxiety. [/QUOTE]
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