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24 year old son severely depressed, I'm at wits end
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<blockquote data-quote="SeekingStrength" data-source="post: 658111" data-attributes="member: 17635"><p>Coel,</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry your son (and you) are dealing with this. Our youngest son dealt with severe depression for a year or so. One night I insisted on taking him to the hospital. I was very scared. He told me about his suicidal thoughts. They did all sorts of tests (no drugs in his system). He, also, is, very bright.</p><p></p><p>He started seeing a therapist and psychiatrist. The psychiatrist had him on so many medications (cocktail), that our son was not himself. We took him off of them, slowly, and he did much better. The therapist was good and the two of them made a plan of baby steps, #1 , #2, #3, to get him going again and our son actually did them. (He seemed to really like her). The therapist gave our son #'s to call if he ever got suicidal thinking again. She told him there was probably no reason for him to go to hospital because it is in his medical records. I was too scared that day to even think along those lines.</p><p></p><p>One time, she called and wanted a meeting with son, dad and me. We were worried about what she might tell us, but it turns out it was just so son could tell us he wanted to drop out of college and was afraid to tell us, fearing our disappointment. We felt like jerks. Our son stayed out 1.5 years before deciding to return. He has done great since returning to school once he was ready. He is on schedule to graduate this December at age 26. During that time, he worked at a Subway, then moved on to a pretty hip pizza joint in town and slowly gained traction. I will never forget his training at Subway. He almost go fired. He was just so depressed and messing up everywhere. It was painful to watch him trying.</p><p></p><p>Added: his last semester of college he dropped out in late October, costing us major $$. This was before he decided to take the hiatus.</p><p></p><p>All of this is to say, once we pulled way back on any expectations and just were there for him to breathe and take small steps, things got much better. It did not happen quickly. The difference in our son now and then is remarkable.</p><p></p><p>by the way, the psychiatrist diagnosed our son with Aspergers. I kinda thought it might fit until our daughter, a psychological examiner, said there was no way. Our son had speech problems early on (aged 2-5). He talked a LOT, but it sounded like gibberish. These days, there is nothing that even looks like Aspergers with him.</p><p></p><p>There are way better days ahead for your son. Believe that.</p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p>SS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SeekingStrength, post: 658111, member: 17635"] Coel, I am so sorry your son (and you) are dealing with this. Our youngest son dealt with severe depression for a year or so. One night I insisted on taking him to the hospital. I was very scared. He told me about his suicidal thoughts. They did all sorts of tests (no drugs in his system). He, also, is, very bright. He started seeing a therapist and psychiatrist. The psychiatrist had him on so many medications (cocktail), that our son was not himself. We took him off of them, slowly, and he did much better. The therapist was good and the two of them made a plan of baby steps, #1 , #2, #3, to get him going again and our son actually did them. (He seemed to really like her). The therapist gave our son #'s to call if he ever got suicidal thinking again. She told him there was probably no reason for him to go to hospital because it is in his medical records. I was too scared that day to even think along those lines. One time, she called and wanted a meeting with son, dad and me. We were worried about what she might tell us, but it turns out it was just so son could tell us he wanted to drop out of college and was afraid to tell us, fearing our disappointment. We felt like jerks. Our son stayed out 1.5 years before deciding to return. He has done great since returning to school once he was ready. He is on schedule to graduate this December at age 26. During that time, he worked at a Subway, then moved on to a pretty hip pizza joint in town and slowly gained traction. I will never forget his training at Subway. He almost go fired. He was just so depressed and messing up everywhere. It was painful to watch him trying. Added: his last semester of college he dropped out in late October, costing us major $$. This was before he decided to take the hiatus. All of this is to say, once we pulled way back on any expectations and just were there for him to breathe and take small steps, things got much better. It did not happen quickly. The difference in our son now and then is remarkable. by the way, the psychiatrist diagnosed our son with Aspergers. I kinda thought it might fit until our daughter, a psychological examiner, said there was no way. Our son had speech problems early on (aged 2-5). He talked a LOT, but it sounded like gibberish. These days, there is nothing that even looks like Aspergers with him. There are way better days ahead for your son. Believe that. Hugs, SS [/QUOTE]
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