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25 yr old son living at home, lies, steals, sneaks and cant keep a job
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<blockquote data-quote="tbod" data-source="post: 686213" data-attributes="member: 20297"><p>Thank you for that insight. The ADHD was not a wrong diagnosis...and he very likely has (and continues to have) other spectrum issues and perhaps other things as well. Probably a "soup sandwich" of issues. We've been working with my son on this for the last 14 years or so, read scores of books on all of the medications (and their side effects, etc,) as well as having a psychologist accompany us on this journey to help us figure out how to parent him. Yep...and had him tested many many times. If you were to meet him...he would appear perfectly normal to you...guaranteed. However, after having spent a few days...you would begin to see the cycling anxieties and almost manic sillyness take place..and the inappropriate..and likely quirky comments. He's developed a very good first impression (learned over the years). At the time, there was so much unknown as to how to move forward with this...not enough data history to avoid the pit falls that desparate parents find themselves in. That, coupled with a school system that was poorly resourced to handle these issues...and those schools that were equipped (called level 5 schools..not sure why)...also had kids that we really didn't want my son associating with. So, we took him out and tried homeschooling him. Nightmare! The issue, is that he is likely very high functioning..and yes, could very well be on the spectrum..but with all of the testing, there was never a specific diagnosis. So, we're hoping that his prefrontal cortex/executive thinking will at least mature enough to where he can somewhat manage himself. Have noticed that over the last 2 years, he is tying together cause and effect and is somewhat appropriately learning from many of his actions...other than just getting mad at the consequence like he used to....or glamorizing his misadventures (and completely missing the point). So, this is why I've put very tight boundaries and rules in place that we've all signed up to in our house. And that seems to be working somewhat. AT 19.5 years old its always a race against time. Glad things have worked out for your son. </p><p></p><p>R/Dude</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="tbod, post: 686213, member: 20297"] Thank you for that insight. The ADHD was not a wrong diagnosis...and he very likely has (and continues to have) other spectrum issues and perhaps other things as well. Probably a "soup sandwich" of issues. We've been working with my son on this for the last 14 years or so, read scores of books on all of the medications (and their side effects, etc,) as well as having a psychologist accompany us on this journey to help us figure out how to parent him. Yep...and had him tested many many times. If you were to meet him...he would appear perfectly normal to you...guaranteed. However, after having spent a few days...you would begin to see the cycling anxieties and almost manic sillyness take place..and the inappropriate..and likely quirky comments. He's developed a very good first impression (learned over the years). At the time, there was so much unknown as to how to move forward with this...not enough data history to avoid the pit falls that desparate parents find themselves in. That, coupled with a school system that was poorly resourced to handle these issues...and those schools that were equipped (called level 5 schools..not sure why)...also had kids that we really didn't want my son associating with. So, we took him out and tried homeschooling him. Nightmare! The issue, is that he is likely very high functioning..and yes, could very well be on the spectrum..but with all of the testing, there was never a specific diagnosis. So, we're hoping that his prefrontal cortex/executive thinking will at least mature enough to where he can somewhat manage himself. Have noticed that over the last 2 years, he is tying together cause and effect and is somewhat appropriately learning from many of his actions...other than just getting mad at the consequence like he used to....or glamorizing his misadventures (and completely missing the point). So, this is why I've put very tight boundaries and rules in place that we've all signed up to in our house. And that seems to be working somewhat. AT 19.5 years old its always a race against time. Glad things have worked out for your son. R/Dude [/QUOTE]
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