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28 yo son with Bipolar
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 732032" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I may be repeating what others have written, but we cannot and ought not buy their love or good treatment. That is either freely given, or not.</p><p></p><p>As far as car and phone, why would we want to subsidize them at the same time we expose ourselves to their abuse and extortion? Let alone the fact he is almost middle aged.</p><p></p><p>There was a time I would not speak to my son until he curbed behaviors I felt to be hurtful. He did.</p><p></p><p>Your son can and will say or do anything at all. There is not one thing you can do to stop him. This has not anything to do with you or your parenting. Past or present. No matter what he says. He will not cop to his part. He will not see it your way.</p><p></p><p>There is nothing to say to him (and yourself) except this: I will not ....I will no longer.....no more. And then, follow through.</p><p></p><p>The bit about the luxury car. Ludicrous. This has nothing to do with bipolar. This is being a jerk.</p><p></p><p>About what you did for 5 years. How did you know it would not work? It could of. You did not know what you were dealing with. Nor did I.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 732032, member: 18958"] I may be repeating what others have written, but we cannot and ought not buy their love or good treatment. That is either freely given, or not. As far as car and phone, why would we want to subsidize them at the same time we expose ourselves to their abuse and extortion? Let alone the fact he is almost middle aged. There was a time I would not speak to my son until he curbed behaviors I felt to be hurtful. He did. Your son can and will say or do anything at all. There is not one thing you can do to stop him. This has not anything to do with you or your parenting. Past or present. No matter what he says. He will not cop to his part. He will not see it your way. There is nothing to say to him (and yourself) except this: I will not ....I will no longer.....no more. And then, follow through. The bit about the luxury car. Ludicrous. This has nothing to do with bipolar. This is being a jerk. About what you did for 5 years. How did you know it would not work? It could of. You did not know what you were dealing with. Nor did I. [/QUOTE]
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