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34yo Difficult Child back in area, same ol, same ol
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<blockquote data-quote="SeekingStrength" data-source="post: 675544" data-attributes="member: 17635"><p>Hi,</p><p></p><p>Background -for those who do not know me, husband and I have a son who has been difficult since puberty. After finding this forum a couple years ago, husband and I finally stopped enabling. Our, then 32yo, son became irate and sent dozens of hateful emails, text messages, etc. This was almost daily and then down to every few months.</p><p></p><p>During the last six months, husband had a fairly nice conversation with him on the phone - not horrible, anyway and we both received a few innocuous texts. Our responses are friendly, albeit short, because we figure he is setting the situation up to ask for $$. So far, he has not asked.</p><p></p><p>So....we learned from my brother that Difficult Child bought a bus ticket and is staying with a guy who lives about 15 mi from my parents (about 60 mi from us). husband and I have no plans to contact him, though we did buy him a Christmas card and put $50 in it, should he show up on our doorstep. Now, I totally think we should put the card away for another day. Difficult Child is supposedly in the area for three weeks, then heading back to where he and his girlfriend have been living.</p><p></p><p>I just called my parents to wish them a Merry Christmas. They do not celebrate but they are in their 80's and I wanted to let them know they are not forgotten today.</p><p></p><p>My dad answers the phone and tells me: they have taken Difficult Child out to eat almost every meal since he has been in the area. Last night it was Burger King. Difficult Child is trying to talk my mom into giving him her minivan. She no longer drives. Difficult Child told my parents that husband and I are alcoholics and that, when he lived with us, we would go out and drink 10-15 beers.</p><p></p><p>My dad commented that Difficult Child cannot leave soon enough for him, but that my mom wants Difficult Child to stay in the area.</p><p></p><p>This rambling post is just me pouring out my frustration that Difficult Child can still be so mean. husband and i are 62 and 60, so it is not like Difficult Child can hurt our reputations. My dad knows Difficult Child to be dishonest, but he seems to always wonder if there is some truth in what Difficult Child tells them. I did not defend myself on the phone, rather just made some lame jokes about the 10-15 daily beers.</p><p></p><p>When I relayed the conversation with husband, his comment was along the lines of, <em>There is no way I can ever have a relationship with Difficult Child as long as continues to be so mean. He acts like a seventh grade girl.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p>Thanks for letting me vent on this beautiful Christmas Day. I promise to return to feeling joy.</p><p></p><p>SS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SeekingStrength, post: 675544, member: 17635"] Hi, Background -for those who do not know me, husband and I have a son who has been difficult since puberty. After finding this forum a couple years ago, husband and I finally stopped enabling. Our, then 32yo, son became irate and sent dozens of hateful emails, text messages, etc. This was almost daily and then down to every few months. During the last six months, husband had a fairly nice conversation with him on the phone - not horrible, anyway and we both received a few innocuous texts. Our responses are friendly, albeit short, because we figure he is setting the situation up to ask for $$. So far, he has not asked. So....we learned from my brother that Difficult Child bought a bus ticket and is staying with a guy who lives about 15 mi from my parents (about 60 mi from us). husband and I have no plans to contact him, though we did buy him a Christmas card and put $50 in it, should he show up on our doorstep. Now, I totally think we should put the card away for another day. Difficult Child is supposedly in the area for three weeks, then heading back to where he and his girlfriend have been living. I just called my parents to wish them a Merry Christmas. They do not celebrate but they are in their 80's and I wanted to let them know they are not forgotten today. My dad answers the phone and tells me: they have taken Difficult Child out to eat almost every meal since he has been in the area. Last night it was Burger King. Difficult Child is trying to talk my mom into giving him her minivan. She no longer drives. Difficult Child told my parents that husband and I are alcoholics and that, when he lived with us, we would go out and drink 10-15 beers. My dad commented that Difficult Child cannot leave soon enough for him, but that my mom wants Difficult Child to stay in the area. This rambling post is just me pouring out my frustration that Difficult Child can still be so mean. husband and i are 62 and 60, so it is not like Difficult Child can hurt our reputations. My dad knows Difficult Child to be dishonest, but he seems to always wonder if there is some truth in what Difficult Child tells them. I did not defend myself on the phone, rather just made some lame jokes about the 10-15 daily beers. When I relayed the conversation with husband, his comment was along the lines of, [I]There is no way I can ever have a relationship with Difficult Child as long as continues to be so mean. He acts like a seventh grade girl. [/I] Thanks for letting me vent on this beautiful Christmas Day. I promise to return to feeling joy. SS [/QUOTE]
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