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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 297836" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>He needs to earn the money to pay for the texts. Allowancw removal is one option but I agree, it's too easy. I'd be setting some heavy chores also, but doon't keep rubbing in the punishment option. It's simply earning money by this stage. The yelling shouldbe over, now it's restitution time.</p><p></p><p>Also another vital chore - DON'T tell him about how you can pay $5 to add unlimited texting. Instead, make him research phone plans in general to find the best choice for the expected usage pattern. Get him to set up a text file on the computer (or even aspreadsheet) listing the different plans, how much they cost and what they can do. It's simply a matter of fact that kids will send text messages, it's now in the culture. Short of disabling the capability, the alternative is to find a painless way of rolling withit. because if you disable it for now, the time will rapidly come when society in general will make it too important.</p><p></p><p>Example - my exBIL hated seat belts. He didn't mind if his vehicle had them, but he couldn't be bothered using them. Then our government brought it in as law - if a vehicle is fitted with sdeat belts, you MUST wear them!</p><p>So he went over the family vehicles and removed the seat belts. No government was telling HIM what to do! The family had a mini bus for getting around (five kids plus dog) and even though the kids would happily wear teir seat belts, Daddy took the seat belts out so HE wouldn't have to be pushed around by the government.</p><p></p><p>A few years down the track - the government now says, "All vehicles by now are made with seat belts in them. So anyone whose vehicle doesn't have seat belts now, had better get them installed. failure to have seat belts installed AND failure to wear them, incurs penalties."</p><p>So he had to pay to have seat belts put back in to the vehicles he'd had them removed from.</p><p></p><p>My point is - you can try to ease back on technology available in your attempts to cut back on family use of the same technology. But increasingly, you will find yourself unable to avoid having to use it. Maybe your doctor will start sending you appointment reminders by text (I have several that do this now) or some other important service will be needed over your phone.</p><p></p><p>So set him an assignment - find a phone plan that costs within $10 a month of your current plan but one which will avoid more big bills and nasty surprises like this. And NEVER, EVER lie about it again. Because the bill WILL come in, the lie will be exposed.</p><p></p><p>The exercise to research phone plans will be a skill he will need for later in life. It's never too early to start!</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 297836, member: 1991"] He needs to earn the money to pay for the texts. Allowancw removal is one option but I agree, it's too easy. I'd be setting some heavy chores also, but doon't keep rubbing in the punishment option. It's simply earning money by this stage. The yelling shouldbe over, now it's restitution time. Also another vital chore - DON'T tell him about how you can pay $5 to add unlimited texting. Instead, make him research phone plans in general to find the best choice for the expected usage pattern. Get him to set up a text file on the computer (or even aspreadsheet) listing the different plans, how much they cost and what they can do. It's simply a matter of fact that kids will send text messages, it's now in the culture. Short of disabling the capability, the alternative is to find a painless way of rolling withit. because if you disable it for now, the time will rapidly come when society in general will make it too important. Example - my exBIL hated seat belts. He didn't mind if his vehicle had them, but he couldn't be bothered using them. Then our government brought it in as law - if a vehicle is fitted with sdeat belts, you MUST wear them! So he went over the family vehicles and removed the seat belts. No government was telling HIM what to do! The family had a mini bus for getting around (five kids plus dog) and even though the kids would happily wear teir seat belts, Daddy took the seat belts out so HE wouldn't have to be pushed around by the government. A few years down the track - the government now says, "All vehicles by now are made with seat belts in them. So anyone whose vehicle doesn't have seat belts now, had better get them installed. failure to have seat belts installed AND failure to wear them, incurs penalties." So he had to pay to have seat belts put back in to the vehicles he'd had them removed from. My point is - you can try to ease back on technology available in your attempts to cut back on family use of the same technology. But increasingly, you will find yourself unable to avoid having to use it. Maybe your doctor will start sending you appointment reminders by text (I have several that do this now) or some other important service will be needed over your phone. So set him an assignment - find a phone plan that costs within $10 a month of your current plan but one which will avoid more big bills and nasty surprises like this. And NEVER, EVER lie about it again. Because the bill WILL come in, the lie will be exposed. The exercise to research phone plans will be a skill he will need for later in life. It's never too early to start! Marg [/QUOTE]
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