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<blockquote data-quote="JayPee" data-source="post: 752193" data-attributes="member: 23405"><p>Terry,</p><p></p><p>My heart goes out to you. This is NOT an easy road for any of us and I feel your pain. I have two homeless sons, 30 & 26 who are currently living in their cars for who knows how much longer. I had a panick attack this weekend thinking about what if they don't check the oil on their vehicles. They are not new cars and older son seized engine on last vehicle given to him too because he had no money and no ability to add oil. Knowing at any moment if not already they're on the streets is over whelming.</p><p></p><p>I've had to detach from them and block all communications because they are angry and bitter and older son verbally abusive to me because I won't financially help or allow them even into my home to visit. That is because I know I'd never get them out. So it's a boundary I need to set for myself.</p><p></p><p>I've helped them out to the tune of thousands of dollars over the last two years. I realized I just couldn't do it anymore it was too draining on me financially and emotionally. They are always in crisis mode. No gas, no food, don't feel good, won't work, car troubles the list is never ending. I would no sooner put one fire out than another started up. I realized I can't live their lives for them. It is a very difficult thing to turn them over to God but that's what I've done. I've also turned myself over to God because I need his help too. I was always praying for two sons (which of course I still do) but came to the conclusion that I needed God's strength too because I just couldn't take it anymore. </p><p></p><p>There's some great books by Joyce Meyer and she talks about how the battlefield of the mind belongs to the Lord. If you can, read them.</p><p>We have to remember that we do have and "should" have control over our thoughts. If we chose to park in the moment of our pain and stay there our worries and troubles will be constantly in the forefront of our minds. It's important to quickly replace the thoughts that our adults sons are feeling hurt, lonely hungry and abandoned. Instead, when you get those agonizing thoughts, send up a prayer for your son and release him to God's care. Don't waste those moments. Make them count and with each prayer ask God to give you strength too. Each and every time.</p><p></p><p>Our thoughts become our actions. Be strong minded and you will be strong.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JayPee, post: 752193, member: 23405"] Terry, My heart goes out to you. This is NOT an easy road for any of us and I feel your pain. I have two homeless sons, 30 & 26 who are currently living in their cars for who knows how much longer. I had a panick attack this weekend thinking about what if they don't check the oil on their vehicles. They are not new cars and older son seized engine on last vehicle given to him too because he had no money and no ability to add oil. Knowing at any moment if not already they're on the streets is over whelming. I've had to detach from them and block all communications because they are angry and bitter and older son verbally abusive to me because I won't financially help or allow them even into my home to visit. That is because I know I'd never get them out. So it's a boundary I need to set for myself. I've helped them out to the tune of thousands of dollars over the last two years. I realized I just couldn't do it anymore it was too draining on me financially and emotionally. They are always in crisis mode. No gas, no food, don't feel good, won't work, car troubles the list is never ending. I would no sooner put one fire out than another started up. I realized I can't live their lives for them. It is a very difficult thing to turn them over to God but that's what I've done. I've also turned myself over to God because I need his help too. I was always praying for two sons (which of course I still do) but came to the conclusion that I needed God's strength too because I just couldn't take it anymore. There's some great books by Joyce Meyer and she talks about how the battlefield of the mind belongs to the Lord. If you can, read them. We have to remember that we do have and "should" have control over our thoughts. If we chose to park in the moment of our pain and stay there our worries and troubles will be constantly in the forefront of our minds. It's important to quickly replace the thoughts that our adults sons are feeling hurt, lonely hungry and abandoned. Instead, when you get those agonizing thoughts, send up a prayer for your son and release him to God's care. Don't waste those moments. Make them count and with each prayer ask God to give you strength too. Each and every time. Our thoughts become our actions. Be strong minded and you will be strong. [/QUOTE]
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