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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 752245" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>All of our adult kids are different. From what I hear in Al Anon and lived through with my daughter, helping with our money does not help. They don't get better at home and don't respect the property we buy for them. I did this for years. My daughter is a 33 year old entitled, bitter mess about to be homeless for her first time ever. We never allowed it before. I guess maybe some adults would be grateful for the help, but personally I have not heard of difficult adult kids doing well while living with Mom. Or ever feeling grateful. Many are quite unpleasant.</p><p></p><p>If you take him in or house him elsewhere it would be for your benefit, not his. He is 39, middle age, with no clue how to take care of himself. If he doesn't learn he will be a child forever and you will be gone one day. Then what? This is a sad fact about my daughter too. You are NOT alone.</p><p></p><p>My advice is none. Do what you can handle and put the grandkids before him. They are children. If you help your middle age son, do it without big expectations or he may tear your heart apart. You can't fix him at his age. None of us can fix another adult, even a beloved child. We can only fix one person...us.</p><p></p><p>If God is in your life do lean on Him. This, therapy and Al Anon really helps me. I can't do it alone. My support system keeps me sane. Please make sure that you take care of yourself. Check in with yourself. Your mental, physical and financial health matter a lot.</p><p></p><p> This is hard.</p><p></p><p>God bless you and your family.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 752245, member: 23706"] All of our adult kids are different. From what I hear in Al Anon and lived through with my daughter, helping with our money does not help. They don't get better at home and don't respect the property we buy for them. I did this for years. My daughter is a 33 year old entitled, bitter mess about to be homeless for her first time ever. We never allowed it before. I guess maybe some adults would be grateful for the help, but personally I have not heard of difficult adult kids doing well while living with Mom. Or ever feeling grateful. Many are quite unpleasant. If you take him in or house him elsewhere it would be for your benefit, not his. He is 39, middle age, with no clue how to take care of himself. If he doesn't learn he will be a child forever and you will be gone one day. Then what? This is a sad fact about my daughter too. You are NOT alone. My advice is none. Do what you can handle and put the grandkids before him. They are children. If you help your middle age son, do it without big expectations or he may tear your heart apart. You can't fix him at his age. None of us can fix another adult, even a beloved child. We can only fix one person...us. If God is in your life do lean on Him. This, therapy and Al Anon really helps me. I can't do it alone. My support system keeps me sane. Please make sure that you take care of yourself. Check in with yourself. Your mental, physical and financial health matter a lot. This is hard. God bless you and your family. [/QUOTE]
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