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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 460176" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>You face a genuine dilemma. Your parents, however imperfect, are still your parents and of course you do not want to cut them off or to cut off their relationship with their grandchildren... I know it may sound idealistic but I really do believe that they may in time come to be far more understanding and helpful than they are at present. What is the way to reach them, to educate them? I can't know from the outside of course but what usually works with people is some expression of appreciation and a clear statement of what you would like. I really appreciate how you (you may have to think deeply for that...<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> )... and then for you tell them what you need to make things better in the relationship between them and your son/children. I appreciate that that may be very difficult and go against years of a particular pattern in your relationship. But for all their lack of emotional skill, they want to be part of your life... Easy for me to say, I know very well <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 460176, member: 11227"] You face a genuine dilemma. Your parents, however imperfect, are still your parents and of course you do not want to cut them off or to cut off their relationship with their grandchildren... I know it may sound idealistic but I really do believe that they may in time come to be far more understanding and helpful than they are at present. What is the way to reach them, to educate them? I can't know from the outside of course but what usually works with people is some expression of appreciation and a clear statement of what you would like. I really appreciate how you (you may have to think deeply for that...:) )... and then for you tell them what you need to make things better in the relationship between them and your son/children. I appreciate that that may be very difficult and go against years of a particular pattern in your relationship. But for all their lack of emotional skill, they want to be part of your life... Easy for me to say, I know very well :) [/QUOTE]
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