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<blockquote data-quote="Tiredof33" data-source="post: 639767" data-attributes="member: 13558"><p>It's so hard when children decide to go no contact with their loved ones. When I started telling difficult child 'no more money' and he knew I meant it, he decided I wasn't worth keeping in touch with.</p><p></p><p>Drugs and alcohol make my difficult child's life so much more difficult than it needs to be. His relationship with another difficult child has compounded the problem. She has him convinced I should send money each month to support him if I really loved him. Girlie told difficult child's sibling (they never met in person) that difficult child told her what a bad childhood he had, sibling was always jealous of him, and sibling put out cigarettes on him and I did nothing about it. No one smoked in our family, and certainly I would have (or someone) seen cigarette burns on him. They are eight years apart, and that in itself makes it a crazy allegation. Amazingly, there are no scars. difficult child and girlie have been off/on for close to five years.</p><p></p><p>difficult child had friends (some PCs) before girlie. She has severed all ties between him, his friends, now all of his family. in my opinion, it is so selfish and self centered for no one, not a single person, to be able to contact difficult child. Sadly, now no one asks me about him.</p><p></p><p>Family dynamics are so mysterious, it's crazy how some people can hold a grudge, or remember their version of events, for so many years without letting things go. That being said, I have also reached an age where I am not bending over backwards to accommodate every whim of people I don't agree with.</p><p></p><p>Too many of my family loves drama and gossip, and my aging mother is usually right in the center of it. in my opinion, they are bored and really need to find something else to entertain them. I try very hard to just let it pass over without getting involved.</p><p></p><p>We can not make our difficult children get help and we can not make them stop using drugs. It's a sad situation.</p><p></p><p>(((hugs and blessings)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiredof33, post: 639767, member: 13558"] It's so hard when children decide to go no contact with their loved ones. When I started telling difficult child 'no more money' and he knew I meant it, he decided I wasn't worth keeping in touch with. Drugs and alcohol make my difficult child's life so much more difficult than it needs to be. His relationship with another difficult child has compounded the problem. She has him convinced I should send money each month to support him if I really loved him. Girlie told difficult child's sibling (they never met in person) that difficult child told her what a bad childhood he had, sibling was always jealous of him, and sibling put out cigarettes on him and I did nothing about it. No one smoked in our family, and certainly I would have (or someone) seen cigarette burns on him. They are eight years apart, and that in itself makes it a crazy allegation. Amazingly, there are no scars. difficult child and girlie have been off/on for close to five years. difficult child had friends (some PCs) before girlie. She has severed all ties between him, his friends, now all of his family. in my opinion, it is so selfish and self centered for no one, not a single person, to be able to contact difficult child. Sadly, now no one asks me about him. Family dynamics are so mysterious, it's crazy how some people can hold a grudge, or remember their version of events, for so many years without letting things go. That being said, I have also reached an age where I am not bending over backwards to accommodate every whim of people I don't agree with. Too many of my family loves drama and gossip, and my aging mother is usually right in the center of it. in my opinion, they are bored and really need to find something else to entertain them. I try very hard to just let it pass over without getting involved. We can not make our difficult children get help and we can not make them stop using drugs. It's a sad situation. (((hugs and blessings))) [/QUOTE]
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