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<blockquote data-quote="mstang67chic" data-source="post: 142197" data-attributes="member: 2459"><p>Just to play the devil's advocate here...</p><p></p><p>My son, while not at the level as yours, is behaving in a similar manner especially now that he's 18. He hasn't been in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC), although I looked into it, but has been hospitalized a couple of times and we've also spent many hours in court. His medications have been tweaked over the years mostly because of growth spurts but also because of manic episodes. He has involved parents, a "support" team consisting of a psychiatrist, counselor, teachers, case manager(s) and social workers. However, everytime we have a meeting it's always the same thing. He wants to be able to do X on his own or get a job/apartment, his goal in school is Y, etc. But yet when it comes time for him to do the work and effort that is required for these goals to be accomplished, he bails. His medications are where they need to be for HIM to do it himself but he doesn't. It's not a matter of can't, he just "doesn't do effort". He wants all of these things but doesn't seem to see the need for him to actually put forth an effort into his own life. </p><p></p><p>My point is that even with the right medications, counseling, services, etc., if the difficult child doesn't want to do for himself, he's not going to. Granted for your case, this is assuming that all diagnosis's are correct and the medications are also correct. At his age, obviously you can't kick him out and force him to fend for himself. So as expensive as it is, maybe another Residential Treatment Center (RTC) is the right choice. He definately needs the proverbial smack upside the head so something needs to be done.</p><p></p><p>I'm not saying that the advice you've already received isn't good. Just trying to look at things from a different angle. And just my .02 worth so take it as you will.</p><p></p><p>Good luck, though, with whatever direction this takes you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mstang67chic, post: 142197, member: 2459"] Just to play the devil's advocate here... My son, while not at the level as yours, is behaving in a similar manner especially now that he's 18. He hasn't been in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC), although I looked into it, but has been hospitalized a couple of times and we've also spent many hours in court. His medications have been tweaked over the years mostly because of growth spurts but also because of manic episodes. He has involved parents, a "support" team consisting of a psychiatrist, counselor, teachers, case manager(s) and social workers. However, everytime we have a meeting it's always the same thing. He wants to be able to do X on his own or get a job/apartment, his goal in school is Y, etc. But yet when it comes time for him to do the work and effort that is required for these goals to be accomplished, he bails. His medications are where they need to be for HIM to do it himself but he doesn't. It's not a matter of can't, he just "doesn't do effort". He wants all of these things but doesn't seem to see the need for him to actually put forth an effort into his own life. My point is that even with the right medications, counseling, services, etc., if the difficult child doesn't want to do for himself, he's not going to. Granted for your case, this is assuming that all diagnosis's are correct and the medications are also correct. At his age, obviously you can't kick him out and force him to fend for himself. So as expensive as it is, maybe another Residential Treatment Center (RTC) is the right choice. He definately needs the proverbial smack upside the head so something needs to be done. I'm not saying that the advice you've already received isn't good. Just trying to look at things from a different angle. And just my .02 worth so take it as you will. Good luck, though, with whatever direction this takes you. [/QUOTE]
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