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<blockquote data-quote="Jenni_n_Seth" data-source="post: 174884" data-attributes="member: 5583"><p>Hey all. I'm new to this board but have been reading it over the past few days. My story is way to long and saddneing to type out but I will def hit up the highlights. Ha don't even know where to start...</p><p> </p><p>Seth is my 4 year old son from a previous relationship. I was a single parent to him for most of his life. My hubby has now become a residenet of Canada and is living with us. Seth knows him as dad and never has questioned it. I've always had issues with Seth. He was always needy as a baby, never would sleep for more than 20-30 min at a time. Wouldn't go to sleep on his own for the longest time and didn't start sleeping through his nights till he was about 9 months old...and even then and to this day he still wakes up frequently at night. </p><p> </p><p>Fast forward to Feb 2007, I had a breakdown. I couldn't handle work and Seth and was put on medical leave. Seth was very violent, very loud, agressive, attached, demanding, controling this list can go on. I ended up giving him up may 2007 and having him in a foster home thinking the "system" would help. Wrong, they kept telling me they would help have him evaluated as his behaviour is off the charts...fast forward to oct 2007, i got him back as I had a break and was on my feet again. The "system" is still involved to this day but has been much help at all. My personal mental health dr finally got the head dr in our city for ADHD to see him. (june 2008) He has pinned seth with ADHD and ODD to the extreme. We have read and been told that it can turn into CD which even at 4 is on the cusp of being CD. (hurting others, animals ect and enjoying it.) Dr has put him on 2 medications (excuse my spelling) adderhal 10mg and respidol 0.25 mg/x3 times a day. </p><p> </p><p>We noticed a difference in him but he's still being Seth...annoying BIG(he's 3foot 9) kid who is infatuated with me (to the point im very turned off on even hugging him), defiant and all around not a joy to be with or around. He's to be starting junior kindergaten in sept 2008 and we are hoping this will be a good thing for him. But being kicked out of homecares and such make us leary of what to expect. We also found out that we are expecting due jan 28, 2009.</p><p> </p><p>We talk sum nights of how life will be with him, will it get better? worse? what about the baby will he hurt them too as he does the animals? is this something we want to fight with and deal with everyday of our lives? im just starting to go back to work part time working with my rehab trying to stay on a good path. But it's so hard when i have all these other issues to deal with. Does anyone have any words of hope? sum days i think i should give him up and let someone who has the time and patience to deal with him...and other days i regret thinking it....i don't know what to do and hubby has given hope. He loves seth but doesn't like him as a person at all, and frankly nor do i. It gets to the point where i don't even want him to talk to me, we don't want to play with him...jsut don't know what to do...<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p><p> </p><p>Jenni - lost in a world of turmoil</p><p>Seth - 4yr old - ADHD/ODD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jenni_n_Seth, post: 174884, member: 5583"] Hey all. I'm new to this board but have been reading it over the past few days. My story is way to long and saddneing to type out but I will def hit up the highlights. Ha don't even know where to start... Seth is my 4 year old son from a previous relationship. I was a single parent to him for most of his life. My hubby has now become a residenet of Canada and is living with us. Seth knows him as dad and never has questioned it. I've always had issues with Seth. He was always needy as a baby, never would sleep for more than 20-30 min at a time. Wouldn't go to sleep on his own for the longest time and didn't start sleeping through his nights till he was about 9 months old...and even then and to this day he still wakes up frequently at night. Fast forward to Feb 2007, I had a breakdown. I couldn't handle work and Seth and was put on medical leave. Seth was very violent, very loud, agressive, attached, demanding, controling this list can go on. I ended up giving him up may 2007 and having him in a foster home thinking the "system" would help. Wrong, they kept telling me they would help have him evaluated as his behaviour is off the charts...fast forward to oct 2007, i got him back as I had a break and was on my feet again. The "system" is still involved to this day but has been much help at all. My personal mental health dr finally got the head dr in our city for ADHD to see him. (june 2008) He has pinned seth with ADHD and ODD to the extreme. We have read and been told that it can turn into CD which even at 4 is on the cusp of being CD. (hurting others, animals ect and enjoying it.) Dr has put him on 2 medications (excuse my spelling) adderhal 10mg and respidol 0.25 mg/x3 times a day. We noticed a difference in him but he's still being Seth...annoying BIG(he's 3foot 9) kid who is infatuated with me (to the point im very turned off on even hugging him), defiant and all around not a joy to be with or around. He's to be starting junior kindergaten in sept 2008 and we are hoping this will be a good thing for him. But being kicked out of homecares and such make us leary of what to expect. We also found out that we are expecting due jan 28, 2009. We talk sum nights of how life will be with him, will it get better? worse? what about the baby will he hurt them too as he does the animals? is this something we want to fight with and deal with everyday of our lives? im just starting to go back to work part time working with my rehab trying to stay on a good path. But it's so hard when i have all these other issues to deal with. Does anyone have any words of hope? sum days i think i should give him up and let someone who has the time and patience to deal with him...and other days i regret thinking it....i don't know what to do and hubby has given hope. He loves seth but doesn't like him as a person at all, and frankly nor do i. It gets to the point where i don't even want him to talk to me, we don't want to play with him...jsut don't know what to do...:( Jenni - lost in a world of turmoil Seth - 4yr old - ADHD/ODD [/QUOTE]
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