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Welcome, I'm glad you found us.


I would love nothing more than to tell you something to encourage you but after seeing loads of people in situations similar to yours (either SO's or subsequent marriages) I'm hesitant to give you any hope for making a difference unless your SO's attitude changes. Bringing two families together is difficult enough but bringing them together when one child has issues as significant as this one clearly does is a 200% guarantee for very troubled waters.  Most parents here who have been down this road counsel the SO/new spouse to lay low and let the biological parent handle the tough issues with the difficult child and it doesn't sound as if you're SO is yet in a position to do that.  I would think that the fact that he was forced to change schools numerous times and got into a lot of trouble would give him the mindset that he'd want something different for his son, despite how he turned out.


I'm sure that is discouraging to hear but I'm not going to sugar coat it for you. 


What is the homelife like for this boy when he's not with you?  It sounds like there's more going on than just serious impulse control issues.


What's the biological family history like?  Any mental health issues that you know of?


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