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<blockquote data-quote="SRL" data-source="post: 5946" data-attributes="member: 701"><p>I'm going to give you the same general information we would give any parent coming through here. Truthfully you can't make any of this happen but it will give you an idea of how far you are now from what ideally should happen for a child like this. </p><p></p><p>We suggest that every child showing signs of issues like this have a multidisciplinary evaluation at a facility like a university clinic or Children's Hospital. This would need to be arranged by referal through the child's pediatrician. Typically if a parent were to approach their pediatrician with concerns about a child with this profile they would be referred to a child psychiatrist and/or child psychiatrist but we highly recommend getting "the works" done in the form of an outpatient evaluation that covers a number of developmental areas. Again, I know you're not in a position to make this happen but for future knowledge this would be the best route to go to get at the bottom of what could be going on here. Kids who continue down this path very often find themselves in a psychiatrist's or counselor's office somewhere along the way.</p><p></p><p>If he is having meltdowns and tantrums, there is a book that has helped many of us called "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. It shows us how to change our parenting style to be more successful with a kid who overreacts to authority. It almost sounds though as if he doesn't overreact to authority but more like he doesn't acknowledge it at all. Is that more accurate?</p><p></p><p>If I were in your shoes I would seriously want to know what is going on with both father and son, if indeed it's the same thing. Most of the disorders that bring parents here have a strong genetic component so I would strongly suggest doing some research to see if you can get some grasp on what that might be. This could be difficult because many of the disorders have overlapping symptoms but it would be worth trying. I would take seriously because although things sound like for the most part they are going well except for this child, circumstances do change and it's not uncommon to be faced with things like having the difficult child come to live with the dad because mom can no longer handle them. You need to know what you are dealing with because it could have some very serious implications down the road for you and your children. Giving the okay on torturing animals isn't exactly what most of us consider typical, acceptable thinking so it sounds like there might be some unusual processing going on there.</p><p></p><p>The kind of impulsivity that you are describing often gets an initial diagnosis of ADHD Impulsive type along with Oppositional Defiance Disorder. Frequently parents find that's not the whole picture. I'm going to give you links for two disorders--Higher functioning Autism and Bipolar (formerly called manic depressive)--that often slip under the radar and look like bad behavioral problems in kids. </p><p></p><p><a href="http://www.thebalancedmind.org" target="_blank">http://www.thebalancedmind.org</a></p><p><a href="http://www.aspergersyndrome.org/" target="_blank">http://www.aspergersyndrome.org/</a></p><p><a href="http://www.childbrain.com/pddq6.shtml" target="_blank">http://www.childbrain.com/pddq6.shtml</a></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SRL, post: 5946, member: 701"] I'm going to give you the same general information we would give any parent coming through here. Truthfully you can't make any of this happen but it will give you an idea of how far you are now from what ideally should happen for a child like this. We suggest that every child showing signs of issues like this have a multidisciplinary evaluation at a facility like a university clinic or Children's Hospital. This would need to be arranged by referal through the child's pediatrician. Typically if a parent were to approach their pediatrician with concerns about a child with this profile they would be referred to a child psychiatrist and/or child psychiatrist but we highly recommend getting "the works" done in the form of an outpatient evaluation that covers a number of developmental areas. Again, I know you're not in a position to make this happen but for future knowledge this would be the best route to go to get at the bottom of what could be going on here. Kids who continue down this path very often find themselves in a psychiatrist's or counselor's office somewhere along the way. If he is having meltdowns and tantrums, there is a book that has helped many of us called "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. It shows us how to change our parenting style to be more successful with a kid who overreacts to authority. It almost sounds though as if he doesn't overreact to authority but more like he doesn't acknowledge it at all. Is that more accurate? If I were in your shoes I would seriously want to know what is going on with both father and son, if indeed it's the same thing. Most of the disorders that bring parents here have a strong genetic component so I would strongly suggest doing some research to see if you can get some grasp on what that might be. This could be difficult because many of the disorders have overlapping symptoms but it would be worth trying. I would take seriously because although things sound like for the most part they are going well except for this child, circumstances do change and it's not uncommon to be faced with things like having the difficult child come to live with the dad because mom can no longer handle them. You need to know what you are dealing with because it could have some very serious implications down the road for you and your children. Giving the okay on torturing animals isn't exactly what most of us consider typical, acceptable thinking so it sounds like there might be some unusual processing going on there. The kind of impulsivity that you are describing often gets an initial diagnosis of ADHD Impulsive type along with Oppositional Defiance Disorder. Frequently parents find that's not the whole picture. I'm going to give you links for two disorders--Higher functioning Autism and Bipolar (formerly called manic depressive)--that often slip under the radar and look like bad behavioral problems in kids. [URL]http://www.thebalancedmind.org[/URL] [URL]http://www.aspergersyndrome.org/[/URL] [URL]http://www.childbrain.com/pddq6.shtml[/URL] [/QUOTE]
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