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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 249991" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>I also think the book SRL mentioned would be helpful to you.</p><p> </p><p>I am wondering, you say Time Out is working yet he is violent when you try to place him into Time Out and you constantly have to return him to Time Out because he gets up.</p><p> </p><p>In my opinion, it doesn't seem to be working very well. </p><p> </p><p>Just because a punishment works for some kids doesn't mean it will work with all kids. Parents of difficult children have to be creative. At least I did. lol Usually it isn't the punishment so much as the consistancy of enforcing rules and praising/rewarding good behaviors. So if Time Out has become a major battle ground, is there a different approach you could take that would have the desired effect? </p><p> </p><p>With my son Travis most "normal" punishment simply did not work. Lucky for him I figured this out by the time he turned 3. Because most of his 2nd yr was spent on a time out chair. Now he'd sit and do time out just fine, but then get right back up and do the same thing that had gotten him there again, so would have to go right back. lol (I can laugh now, wasn't funny at the time)</p><p> </p><p>So I began to get creative. I had to find things that worked for him. Like if he got into trouble with a cetain toy, the toy itself was placed into time out for a certain amount of time. If he got into trouble over the tv, the tv was off limits for a certain amount of time, if he got in trouble outside he would have to stay inside for a certain amount of time. Usually I tried hard to keep the times age appropriate as the younger kids are, the quicker they are to forget what it was they did wrong.</p><p> </p><p>Then we went thru a stage at about age 6 or so that those things weren't really helping. So he got assigned time out to ME. Yup. Had to stay on my heels for a certain amount of time. This lasted longer than the others....and takes extreme patience and stubborness. But it worked. </p><p> </p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 249991, member: 84"] I also think the book SRL mentioned would be helpful to you. I am wondering, you say Time Out is working yet he is violent when you try to place him into Time Out and you constantly have to return him to Time Out because he gets up. In my opinion, it doesn't seem to be working very well. Just because a punishment works for some kids doesn't mean it will work with all kids. Parents of difficult children have to be creative. At least I did. lol Usually it isn't the punishment so much as the consistancy of enforcing rules and praising/rewarding good behaviors. So if Time Out has become a major battle ground, is there a different approach you could take that would have the desired effect? With my son Travis most "normal" punishment simply did not work. Lucky for him I figured this out by the time he turned 3. Because most of his 2nd yr was spent on a time out chair. Now he'd sit and do time out just fine, but then get right back up and do the same thing that had gotten him there again, so would have to go right back. lol (I can laugh now, wasn't funny at the time) So I began to get creative. I had to find things that worked for him. Like if he got into trouble with a cetain toy, the toy itself was placed into time out for a certain amount of time. If he got into trouble over the tv, the tv was off limits for a certain amount of time, if he got in trouble outside he would have to stay inside for a certain amount of time. Usually I tried hard to keep the times age appropriate as the younger kids are, the quicker they are to forget what it was they did wrong. Then we went thru a stage at about age 6 or so that those things weren't really helping. So he got assigned time out to ME. Yup. Had to stay on my heels for a certain amount of time. This lasted longer than the others....and takes extreme patience and stubborness. But it worked. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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