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<blockquote data-quote="rlsnights" data-source="post: 302920" data-attributes="member: 7948"><p>Agree with others but also think parenting issues may be contributing. I had similar situation for a while until I convinced spouse it was really hurting the kids and, more importantly, not getting the chores done, house clean, let alone peace and quiet for TV viewing that was desired. Behaviors improved but didn't go away.</p><p></p><p>Does your child act or respond differently with you? If not then neuropsychologist evaluation outweighs parenting in my humble opinion. Did he go to preschool? How did he act there?</p><p></p><p>Agree that you need to meet with school and ask how they would normally proceed in such a case. I would formally request a meeting with teacher that meets your SD's definition of the first step in getting a Special Education evaluation since family history and your own assessment strongly suggest that's the direction you are heading.</p><p></p><p>If they want you to get him assessed for ADHD or whatever and you don't want to, I wouldn't tell them that. I would just talk about the fact that, regardless of the results of any such assessment, it's not going to presto change what's happening at school. So you may need to persistently and politely ask how they expect you to control your child's behavior when at school? How are they going to keep your child and other children safe? What has the teacher tried in the classroom? on the playground? Can she identify any triggers or situations that seem to cause your child to get overwhelmed? Is she an experienced teacher? If not, is there a master teacher or mentor who could observe the class and offer tips? Is there an aide in the classroom? What is does the aide see happening? Can the school psychiatric do a classroom observation?</p><p></p><p>You get the idea. I wouldn't tell them what to do just ask how they are going to ensure your son is learning his letters? How are they going to make sure your son makes friends? How are they going to make sure your child is able to write his letters? Operationalize (make measurable) whenever possible and put the responsibility on them to come up with solutions. If they ask you for suggestions, by all means offer them. If they don't or they just want to play the blame game (must be family problems) go back to your questions. Broken record game.</p><p></p><p>Good luck</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rlsnights, post: 302920, member: 7948"] Agree with others but also think parenting issues may be contributing. I had similar situation for a while until I convinced spouse it was really hurting the kids and, more importantly, not getting the chores done, house clean, let alone peace and quiet for TV viewing that was desired. Behaviors improved but didn't go away. Does your child act or respond differently with you? If not then neuropsychologist evaluation outweighs parenting in my humble opinion. Did he go to preschool? How did he act there? Agree that you need to meet with school and ask how they would normally proceed in such a case. I would formally request a meeting with teacher that meets your SD's definition of the first step in getting a Special Education evaluation since family history and your own assessment strongly suggest that's the direction you are heading. If they want you to get him assessed for ADHD or whatever and you don't want to, I wouldn't tell them that. I would just talk about the fact that, regardless of the results of any such assessment, it's not going to presto change what's happening at school. So you may need to persistently and politely ask how they expect you to control your child's behavior when at school? How are they going to keep your child and other children safe? What has the teacher tried in the classroom? on the playground? Can she identify any triggers or situations that seem to cause your child to get overwhelmed? Is she an experienced teacher? If not, is there a master teacher or mentor who could observe the class and offer tips? Is there an aide in the classroom? What is does the aide see happening? Can the school psychiatric do a classroom observation? You get the idea. I wouldn't tell them what to do just ask how they are going to ensure your son is learning his letters? How are they going to make sure your son makes friends? How are they going to make sure your child is able to write his letters? Operationalize (make measurable) whenever possible and put the responsibility on them to come up with solutions. If they ask you for suggestions, by all means offer them. If they don't or they just want to play the blame game (must be family problems) go back to your questions. Broken record game. Good luck [/QUOTE]
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