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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 366135" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>It sounds as though things are really hard. Did he have any of these problems before he moved here? Were they the same or different? I would be skeptical of a diagnosis that came that quickly also. I was, actually. We had several therapists (tdocs) who gave us all kinds of diagnosis's (diagnosis). Finally we were able to see a psychiatrist (psychiatrist, has an MD) and got a thorough evaluation and correct diagnosis. </p><p></p><p>I actually recommend you find a developmental pediatrician and/or a neuropsychologist to evaluate your son. The dev pediatrician we saw had our son do a battery of tests with the group of professionals at his office. They then had a meeting to discuss all of the results and figure out what was going on. This is sometimes called a multidisciplinary evaluation and is very very useful to figure out exactly what the problems are. The tests took about 3 sessions that were each 3-4 hours long. Some kids cannot do tests that long and they do more sessions that are shorter. Neuropsychs are specially trained in how the brain effects behavior. Good ones will run approximately the same tests our dev pediatrician did. They also break the testing up into several sessions. </p><p></p><p>After the testing you will get a report and it should contain the dxs that are appropriate and ways to help, along with recommended accommodations for school. This will be the most effective way to help your son (we use difficult child to indicate the child who brought you here - it stands for gift from God). It isn't cheap but it is cheaper in the long run than going to doctor after therapist after doctor after therapist and have each of them figure out what is going on from talking with you and difficult child for 45 minutes. You won't spend as much money on therapies that don't target the problem or that make it worse or on medications that don't treat the real problem and cause serious side effects. </p><p></p><p>You also need to contact the school he will attend because he will need an IEP when he starts school. It stands for individualized education plan and is designed to help your son's education fit his needs and abilities. You can find a LOT of info on IEPs and school issues in the Sp Ed forum and archives. There is a letter requesting an IEP that is available to send to your school. You will need to add the appropriate details, of course. When you send it you MUST send it by certified mail, return receipt requested. This puts federal timelines into place which means that the testing and evaluations must be done within so many days (I think it is 60 days. It may be hard to get evaluations done in summer. Sometimes the people who do the testing are on vacation or take leaves of absence in the summer. If those people are teachers they usually are only paid for 9 months of the year. While the law says the days count, the realities are that sometimes you have to be a little patient in the summer because it may be impossible to get the right people to do the testing. A little honey (aka patience) may make things easier later. Just make sure you send the letter to the school. I would also try to send one to the Superintendent with the explanation that principals may not be in during the summer and you want to be sure this is addressed before the school year starts. You should still send one to the school, but it helps keep things moving if you show you made a good faith effort to let the right people know what you need. </p><p></p><p>In the meantime (while you wait for appointments and evaluations, etc...) it would be very helpful if you started a Parent Report. Our FAQ board has a thread titled Parent Input/Multidisciplinary Evaluation. It has an outline of a Parent Report that some wise moms figured out and wrote down years ago. It is a great way to keep everything organized so that you can access info at any time and can share whatever needs to be shared in a timely manner. I have found it to be invaluable, both for my difficult child and for my daughter who is dealing with some medical problems.</p><p></p><p>I also recommend reading <em>The Explosive Child</em> by Ross Greene. It suggests a different way to approach parenting that many of us have found to be incredibly helpful, regardless of the problems our kids are dealing with. It seems counter-intuitive and certainly is NOT the more traditional way to parent, but it IS effective. Many of us refer to it as sort of a "bible" for parenting. I also recommend using Love and Logic books. Most of our kids operate on an emotional level that is about 1/3 less than their age in years. This means your son would be operating at about the level of a 4yo. Given that, I recommend <em>Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood</em>. I also recommend their regular book, <em>Parenting with Love and Logic</em> and their website ( <a href="http://www.loveandlogic.com" target="_blank">www.loveandlogic.com</a>). The website has a lot of stuff for teachers. I have found those helpful also, though I am not a teacher. They have descriptions of all of their books on the site so that you can decide if one would suit you more than another. You can purchase their books on the site, or in bookstores or from amazon. If you choose to use amazon.com, there is a link on the home page that will take you to the site. Purchases made by going to amazon via this site do help support the site. It is NOT mandatory and no one will ask if you did that or not. No one would refuse to give help or support based on that either.</p><p></p><p>Whatever else you do, keep coming back. We really care, we have truly been there done that so we "get it" and know you are not exaggerating or making it up. We don't judge either. </p><p></p><p>(((hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 366135, member: 1233"] It sounds as though things are really hard. Did he have any of these problems before he moved here? Were they the same or different? I would be skeptical of a diagnosis that came that quickly also. I was, actually. We had several therapists (tdocs) who gave us all kinds of diagnosis's (diagnosis). Finally we were able to see a psychiatrist (psychiatrist, has an MD) and got a thorough evaluation and correct diagnosis. I actually recommend you find a developmental pediatrician and/or a neuropsychologist to evaluate your son. The dev pediatrician we saw had our son do a battery of tests with the group of professionals at his office. They then had a meeting to discuss all of the results and figure out what was going on. This is sometimes called a multidisciplinary evaluation and is very very useful to figure out exactly what the problems are. The tests took about 3 sessions that were each 3-4 hours long. Some kids cannot do tests that long and they do more sessions that are shorter. Neuropsychs are specially trained in how the brain effects behavior. Good ones will run approximately the same tests our dev pediatrician did. They also break the testing up into several sessions. After the testing you will get a report and it should contain the dxs that are appropriate and ways to help, along with recommended accommodations for school. This will be the most effective way to help your son (we use difficult child to indicate the child who brought you here - it stands for gift from God). It isn't cheap but it is cheaper in the long run than going to doctor after therapist after doctor after therapist and have each of them figure out what is going on from talking with you and difficult child for 45 minutes. You won't spend as much money on therapies that don't target the problem or that make it worse or on medications that don't treat the real problem and cause serious side effects. You also need to contact the school he will attend because he will need an IEP when he starts school. It stands for individualized education plan and is designed to help your son's education fit his needs and abilities. You can find a LOT of info on IEPs and school issues in the Sp Ed forum and archives. There is a letter requesting an IEP that is available to send to your school. You will need to add the appropriate details, of course. When you send it you MUST send it by certified mail, return receipt requested. This puts federal timelines into place which means that the testing and evaluations must be done within so many days (I think it is 60 days. It may be hard to get evaluations done in summer. Sometimes the people who do the testing are on vacation or take leaves of absence in the summer. If those people are teachers they usually are only paid for 9 months of the year. While the law says the days count, the realities are that sometimes you have to be a little patient in the summer because it may be impossible to get the right people to do the testing. A little honey (aka patience) may make things easier later. Just make sure you send the letter to the school. I would also try to send one to the Superintendent with the explanation that principals may not be in during the summer and you want to be sure this is addressed before the school year starts. You should still send one to the school, but it helps keep things moving if you show you made a good faith effort to let the right people know what you need. In the meantime (while you wait for appointments and evaluations, etc...) it would be very helpful if you started a Parent Report. Our FAQ board has a thread titled Parent Input/Multidisciplinary Evaluation. It has an outline of a Parent Report that some wise moms figured out and wrote down years ago. It is a great way to keep everything organized so that you can access info at any time and can share whatever needs to be shared in a timely manner. I have found it to be invaluable, both for my difficult child and for my daughter who is dealing with some medical problems. I also recommend reading [I]The Explosive Child[/I] by Ross Greene. It suggests a different way to approach parenting that many of us have found to be incredibly helpful, regardless of the problems our kids are dealing with. It seems counter-intuitive and certainly is NOT the more traditional way to parent, but it IS effective. Many of us refer to it as sort of a "bible" for parenting. I also recommend using Love and Logic books. Most of our kids operate on an emotional level that is about 1/3 less than their age in years. This means your son would be operating at about the level of a 4yo. Given that, I recommend [I]Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood[/I]. I also recommend their regular book, [I]Parenting with Love and Logic[/I] and their website ( [url]www.loveandlogic.com[/url]). The website has a lot of stuff for teachers. I have found those helpful also, though I am not a teacher. They have descriptions of all of their books on the site so that you can decide if one would suit you more than another. You can purchase their books on the site, or in bookstores or from amazon. If you choose to use amazon.com, there is a link on the home page that will take you to the site. Purchases made by going to amazon via this site do help support the site. It is NOT mandatory and no one will ask if you did that or not. No one would refuse to give help or support based on that either. Whatever else you do, keep coming back. We really care, we have truly been there done that so we "get it" and know you are not exaggerating or making it up. We don't judge either. (((hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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