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<blockquote data-quote="kim75062" data-source="post: 699150" data-attributes="member: 20727"><p>I'm sure the paras do cost quit a bit of money to the district. If they had a place to put him besides a regular classroom I'm sure they would of by now. But they have no other options here. As far as him being distracting to the other children I agree that its not fair for them to have their class disrupted by whatever hes doing. That's why he gets removed from the room constantly. He may spend 1 hour a day in his actual classroom. And that's usually breakfast, and reading. Which he excels at and is usually reading to the entire class. He does not get a chance to go back to class after he messes up once that morning. I completely sympathize with with teacher and the staff that its not fair to them to have to deal with him and 15 other kids etc. I spent way to much time worrying about the rest of the class last year. He is my only concern at this point and it is their job to figure out how to deal with the unfairness and the rest of it. </p><p></p><p>He is spending his day between the counselors office and the front office doing "busy work". He is supposed to be doing what his classmates are working on but they just give him a bunch of nonsense worksheets. Last week when I was in the office with him he had a stack of practice writing sheets in front of him. one for every letter in the alphabet and 10 math work sheets with 30 problems on each side. Is that really what the class was doing that day? every letter of the alphabet and 600 math problems at 2 weeks into 1st grade? I doubt it. They have also been told he HATES writing. He is being evaluated for that so we can figure out how to help him. so they give him nothing but writing to do and expect him to quietly sit there and do that for 6 hours. </p><p>I guess it never occurred to them to give him a book on feelings and how to manage stressful situations from the school library. That might have been a better use of the day. </p><p></p><p>Today I was called up there again at 930am this time. Because he refused to do his work and was wondering around the back of the classroom with a pinwheel from his fidget box. After I got there I get told that he was refusing to do his work but was sitting there playing with the pinwheel. not bothering anyone because he was secluded to a table by himself with the para in the back of the class. The teacher decided it was time to take his pinwheel away and his fidget toys because he was playing and not doing any work. I told the principal and the para that in his plan we made he is to have access to that box of toys/fidgets at all times. He knows when he feels overwhelmed or the need to run off that's what he should do instead. The fact he was still in the classroom and hadn't run off was not mentioned once. Or the fact that he was not kicking or hitting them. His problem was he has bad handwriting and didn't want anyone else to see his work. The installation of a "shield" (open folder on the table) solved that problem.</p><p></p><p>now its 11am. I was called again to come pick him up. This time because he refused to LEAVE the classroom for lunch. Because he wasn't following the rules at 930 his teacher decided he had to be the last one called for lunch and be at the end of the line. (i thought grown ups knew better then to hold a grudge?) anyway he refused to leave the room so they had to call me. I asked them why exactly he couldn't eat his lunch in the classroom? they do eat breakfast in there. And his para is with him for lunch anyway. she gets her break while he is in specials. (music, art etc). No one had a answer for that. He said he didn't want to be last and he was sad so he just wanted to be alone. Not an unreasonable request from a kid that was kicking them last week instead of verbalizing his feelings. The counsler just came in for the day and was begging me not to take him home. I told her that they aren't happy with him running off and having to chase him (understandable). They don't know how to deal with aggression (not an issue today). And now they are not happy with him staying put in the room. I'm not sure what they are capable of handling because at this point it seems like nothing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="kim75062, post: 699150, member: 20727"] I'm sure the paras do cost quit a bit of money to the district. If they had a place to put him besides a regular classroom I'm sure they would of by now. But they have no other options here. As far as him being distracting to the other children I agree that its not fair for them to have their class disrupted by whatever hes doing. That's why he gets removed from the room constantly. He may spend 1 hour a day in his actual classroom. And that's usually breakfast, and reading. Which he excels at and is usually reading to the entire class. He does not get a chance to go back to class after he messes up once that morning. I completely sympathize with with teacher and the staff that its not fair to them to have to deal with him and 15 other kids etc. I spent way to much time worrying about the rest of the class last year. He is my only concern at this point and it is their job to figure out how to deal with the unfairness and the rest of it. He is spending his day between the counselors office and the front office doing "busy work". He is supposed to be doing what his classmates are working on but they just give him a bunch of nonsense worksheets. Last week when I was in the office with him he had a stack of practice writing sheets in front of him. one for every letter in the alphabet and 10 math work sheets with 30 problems on each side. Is that really what the class was doing that day? every letter of the alphabet and 600 math problems at 2 weeks into 1st grade? I doubt it. They have also been told he HATES writing. He is being evaluated for that so we can figure out how to help him. so they give him nothing but writing to do and expect him to quietly sit there and do that for 6 hours. I guess it never occurred to them to give him a book on feelings and how to manage stressful situations from the school library. That might have been a better use of the day. Today I was called up there again at 930am this time. Because he refused to do his work and was wondering around the back of the classroom with a pinwheel from his fidget box. After I got there I get told that he was refusing to do his work but was sitting there playing with the pinwheel. not bothering anyone because he was secluded to a table by himself with the para in the back of the class. The teacher decided it was time to take his pinwheel away and his fidget toys because he was playing and not doing any work. I told the principal and the para that in his plan we made he is to have access to that box of toys/fidgets at all times. He knows when he feels overwhelmed or the need to run off that's what he should do instead. The fact he was still in the classroom and hadn't run off was not mentioned once. Or the fact that he was not kicking or hitting them. His problem was he has bad handwriting and didn't want anyone else to see his work. The installation of a "shield" (open folder on the table) solved that problem. now its 11am. I was called again to come pick him up. This time because he refused to LEAVE the classroom for lunch. Because he wasn't following the rules at 930 his teacher decided he had to be the last one called for lunch and be at the end of the line. (i thought grown ups knew better then to hold a grudge?) anyway he refused to leave the room so they had to call me. I asked them why exactly he couldn't eat his lunch in the classroom? they do eat breakfast in there. And his para is with him for lunch anyway. she gets her break while he is in specials. (music, art etc). No one had a answer for that. He said he didn't want to be last and he was sad so he just wanted to be alone. Not an unreasonable request from a kid that was kicking them last week instead of verbalizing his feelings. The counsler just came in for the day and was begging me not to take him home. I told her that they aren't happy with him running off and having to chase him (understandable). They don't know how to deal with aggression (not an issue today). And now they are not happy with him staying put in the room. I'm not sure what they are capable of handling because at this point it seems like nothing. [/QUOTE]
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