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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 110458"><p>Like smallworld mentioned, I was thinking depression, too. You've pretty much described to a 't' what I experienced with my son when he was 10. He started in June, 2001 right after coming home from a visit to his dad (we divorced when easy child was 2). In late September of that year I started dating someone who was rarely around my children and easy child went off the chart. To this day, my mother blames easy child's depression on the fact that I was dating someone and easy child didn't like him. It doesn't matter that it started BEFORE I started dating someone. It doesn't matter that I was doing everything I could to get him help while she systematically tried - and succeeded - in sabatoging my efforts. My dating someone may not have helped the situation, but his depression was NOT situational, it was clinical. IOW, he would have escalated whether or not I had brought someone else into my life. However, her supporting the fact that I had a right to happiness in my life may have helped. Instead, her reaction gave easy child a way to justify things instead of helping him cope with his depression. Kids don't become suicidal and parents don't consider Residential Treatment Center (RTC) just because there is a boyfriend. And that's where we were with my son. </p><p></p><p>So, stop the guilt. Get her help as the others have suggested. Your pediatrician is not going to be able to handle this alone.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 110458"] Like smallworld mentioned, I was thinking depression, too. You've pretty much described to a 't' what I experienced with my son when he was 10. He started in June, 2001 right after coming home from a visit to his dad (we divorced when easy child was 2). In late September of that year I started dating someone who was rarely around my children and easy child went off the chart. To this day, my mother blames easy child's depression on the fact that I was dating someone and easy child didn't like him. It doesn't matter that it started BEFORE I started dating someone. It doesn't matter that I was doing everything I could to get him help while she systematically tried - and succeeded - in sabatoging my efforts. My dating someone may not have helped the situation, but his depression was NOT situational, it was clinical. IOW, he would have escalated whether or not I had brought someone else into my life. However, her supporting the fact that I had a right to happiness in my life may have helped. Instead, her reaction gave easy child a way to justify things instead of helping him cope with his depression. Kids don't become suicidal and parents don't consider Residential Treatment Center (RTC) just because there is a boyfriend. And that's where we were with my son. So, stop the guilt. Get her help as the others have suggested. Your pediatrician is not going to be able to handle this alone. [/QUOTE]
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