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<blockquote data-quote="GOSOX" data-source="post: 110997" data-attributes="member: 4456"><p>I think that all of you have such a good point.</p><p>I know that children for sure exhibit depression so much differently than adults.</p><p>( I as I sit here myself today having another pity party) ( I dont see my kids until tomorrow night and boyf gone until monday) </p><p>I feel like I could run away but as my best friend said </p><p>" everywhere you go there you are."</p><p></p><p>I know that she does trust and love me to " explode" with me but I am feeling like I am not giving her the love and the trust when I have had to lock her brother and I in a bathroom while I run away from her.. I feel like i have to fix things for her .. I know that that is what parents get caught in a lot trying to fix it for them... I just wish I could be momre supportive you know?&gt;</p><p></p><p>Poeple have also said.. just try and hug her? Are they crazy? She is so tactile stimulant nuts that she might headbutt me!</p><p></p><p>Anyhow.. that is where I am at today.</p><p>I am also trying to get the apt in order so I can JUST focus on them and not laundry etc.. which it seems like when I am not paying attn things start to roll and escalate.</p><p>I also understand that when they do certain behaviors they are saying " LISTEN TO ME".. maybe I am not listening well enough? ( here comes the guilt.. I know)</p><p></p><p>AS for the marriage and relationship/</p><p>Stayed in the marriage FAR TOO LONG.. emotionally abusive very much so... </p><p>I was " out of the marriage" ( as woman tend to do) FAR before I left.</p><p>I have a SUPER guy..so respectful and supportive I am amazed each day I am with him thatI never thought life could be like this.</p><p>It has been 12 months and all is well.</p><p>We still VERY much have our own space and do what we like to do.. we see the kids "together" one day of our with-e with the kids and then we kind of dont get them all together</p><p>again for another 2 weeks.We also have very different friends and hobbies... no silly stuff either like drug and alcohol.. dont get me wrong a martini is ok but more than 1 I am a mess!</p><p></p><p>One other thing to bring up.. my X is very close with MY family still. I am not very close with them.. he even took MY children to my parents home Xmas. He states that the children need to know that " they have aloving and suppportive family." I dont go there much at all ( to my rents as they have not been in agreement with my decision to leave) </p><p>Can that be showing her support or confusing her? I dont know... just another monkey wrench I guess.</p><p>Thanks again.. will check in later.</p><p>Will work on my " signature thing" too.</p><p>GO SOX</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>That book is ordered and en rt.. ( the explosive child)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="GOSOX, post: 110997, member: 4456"] I think that all of you have such a good point. I know that children for sure exhibit depression so much differently than adults. ( I as I sit here myself today having another pity party) ( I dont see my kids until tomorrow night and boyf gone until monday) I feel like I could run away but as my best friend said " everywhere you go there you are." I know that she does trust and love me to " explode" with me but I am feeling like I am not giving her the love and the trust when I have had to lock her brother and I in a bathroom while I run away from her.. I feel like i have to fix things for her .. I know that that is what parents get caught in a lot trying to fix it for them... I just wish I could be momre supportive you know?> Poeple have also said.. just try and hug her? Are they crazy? She is so tactile stimulant nuts that she might headbutt me! Anyhow.. that is where I am at today. I am also trying to get the apt in order so I can JUST focus on them and not laundry etc.. which it seems like when I am not paying attn things start to roll and escalate. I also understand that when they do certain behaviors they are saying " LISTEN TO ME".. maybe I am not listening well enough? ( here comes the guilt.. I know) AS for the marriage and relationship/ Stayed in the marriage FAR TOO LONG.. emotionally abusive very much so... I was " out of the marriage" ( as woman tend to do) FAR before I left. I have a SUPER guy..so respectful and supportive I am amazed each day I am with him thatI never thought life could be like this. It has been 12 months and all is well. We still VERY much have our own space and do what we like to do.. we see the kids "together" one day of our with-e with the kids and then we kind of dont get them all together again for another 2 weeks.We also have very different friends and hobbies... no silly stuff either like drug and alcohol.. dont get me wrong a martini is ok but more than 1 I am a mess! One other thing to bring up.. my X is very close with MY family still. I am not very close with them.. he even took MY children to my parents home Xmas. He states that the children need to know that " they have aloving and suppportive family." I dont go there much at all ( to my rents as they have not been in agreement with my decision to leave) Can that be showing her support or confusing her? I dont know... just another monkey wrench I guess. Thanks again.. will check in later. Will work on my " signature thing" too. GO SOX That book is ordered and en rt.. ( the explosive child) [/QUOTE]
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