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8 year old identical twin ...adhd and behavioral rages...getting worse
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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 524539" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Welcome!</p><p></p><p>You are brave to have adopted older kids from a Russian orphanage. As you are discovering. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p>And yes, birthparents with-unhealthy lifestyles tend to produce even unhealthier kids. Kids who pay a price for their parents' genetic issues, on top of drug and alcohol abuse. On top of attachment issues.</p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/sigh.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":sigh:" title="sigh :sigh:" data-shortname=":sigh:" /></p><p></p><p>Bravo to you for having such thorough testing done asap.</p><p></p><p>Still, more testing to be done.</p><p></p><p>In the meantime, I would "assume" that there was damage in utero, say, from alcohol; I would then buy a bunch of books and consult with-experts on what types of interventions can be done. Assume that their nervous systems were damaged by chemicals, so there are sensory issues, and that the myelin sheathing on their nerves is damaged, which leaves them very vulnerable to both physical and emotional issues. I would also take out all dyes (candy, cereal) to not add to the chemical issues. And I would try some medications with-the help of a psychiatrist who specializes in these things. </p><p></p><p>Of course, living in the real world, they are going to have to learn consequences. I would suggest, in my humble opinion, that it is going to take a lot longer, and a lot more repetition, to teach them consequences. But you're already figuring that out ...</p><p></p><p>As an aside, it's interesting that they are identical, but their issues are not identical. I would suggest that they are, in fact, undergoing identical frustrations because of their genetics and chemical exposure, but that their coping mechanisms are different (as you pointed out, one cries, the other acts out, and outward). That is an age-old question for psychologists and philosophers, as to how much the individual is capable of doing and how much is genetic. </p><p></p><p>Many, many hugs, and by the way, I agree, "childproofing" your house in a more sophisticated way, i.e. alarms, etc. is a good idea.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 524539, member: 3419"] Welcome! You are brave to have adopted older kids from a Russian orphanage. As you are discovering. :) And yes, birthparents with-unhealthy lifestyles tend to produce even unhealthier kids. Kids who pay a price for their parents' genetic issues, on top of drug and alcohol abuse. On top of attachment issues. :sigh: Bravo to you for having such thorough testing done asap. Still, more testing to be done. In the meantime, I would "assume" that there was damage in utero, say, from alcohol; I would then buy a bunch of books and consult with-experts on what types of interventions can be done. Assume that their nervous systems were damaged by chemicals, so there are sensory issues, and that the myelin sheathing on their nerves is damaged, which leaves them very vulnerable to both physical and emotional issues. I would also take out all dyes (candy, cereal) to not add to the chemical issues. And I would try some medications with-the help of a psychiatrist who specializes in these things. Of course, living in the real world, they are going to have to learn consequences. I would suggest, in my humble opinion, that it is going to take a lot longer, and a lot more repetition, to teach them consequences. But you're already figuring that out ... As an aside, it's interesting that they are identical, but their issues are not identical. I would suggest that they are, in fact, undergoing identical frustrations because of their genetics and chemical exposure, but that their coping mechanisms are different (as you pointed out, one cries, the other acts out, and outward). That is an age-old question for psychologists and philosophers, as to how much the individual is capable of doing and how much is genetic. Many, many hugs, and by the way, I agree, "childproofing" your house in a more sophisticated way, i.e. alarms, etc. is a good idea. [/QUOTE]
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