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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 422969" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>Hi, Rose - We're new here too, but... this sounds a wee bit familiar. We were having huge problems at home, and school didn't see a thing there... turns out, there was more going on at school than they saw, AND, school was the trigger for everything at home. its an on-going battle - still happening in high school.</p><p> </p><p>Some kids put in an incredible effort to hold it all together at school - far more effort than anyone there sees or understands, and far more effort than the resources they have available. The result is, "reasonable performance" at school and... meltdowns, or destruction, or all sorts of behavior issues at home. The reason: fatigued, overloaded, and overwhelmed. Because "home" can't fix "school", it all gets taken out on "home".</p><p> </p><p>Until you know what all she's dealing with, its hard to find the triggers. Anxiety, stress, fatigue, overload... the gap between what they can do and what their peers can do, playground impacts, one bad teacher, bullying, its hard to remember all the stuff across 9 years! But ALL of the triggers were (and are) at school. You won't get much support from the teachers, though. We got nothing anywhere (medical, school, family) until we had solid medical diagnoses - and then, you still only get partial support because the school assumes the problem must be at home.</p><p> </p><p>Good Luck!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 422969, member: 11791"] Hi, Rose - We're new here too, but... this sounds a wee bit familiar. We were having huge problems at home, and school didn't see a thing there... turns out, there was more going on at school than they saw, AND, school was the trigger for everything at home. its an on-going battle - still happening in high school. Some kids put in an incredible effort to hold it all together at school - far more effort than anyone there sees or understands, and far more effort than the resources they have available. The result is, "reasonable performance" at school and... meltdowns, or destruction, or all sorts of behavior issues at home. The reason: fatigued, overloaded, and overwhelmed. Because "home" can't fix "school", it all gets taken out on "home". Until you know what all she's dealing with, its hard to find the triggers. Anxiety, stress, fatigue, overload... the gap between what they can do and what their peers can do, playground impacts, one bad teacher, bullying, its hard to remember all the stuff across 9 years! But ALL of the triggers were (and are) at school. You won't get much support from the teachers, though. We got nothing anywhere (medical, school, family) until we had solid medical diagnoses - and then, you still only get partial support because the school assumes the problem must be at home. Good Luck!! [/QUOTE]
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