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911.. what to do.. she is asking to come home..
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<blockquote data-quote="rejectedmom" data-source="post: 251097" data-attributes="member: 2315"><p>You are absolutely correct that she needs to clear up her legal mess before crossing a state line. If you can when she calls back tell her to go to a women's shelter and ask for legal council. I am reasonably certain that she will do very little jail time if any at all. If she is given probation she can have it transferred to your state through the inter-state compact. It takes a couple of weeks to get all the paperwork approved but it can be done. It is done throught he parole or probation office. (I did this to get my difficult child in an out of state Residential Treatment Center (RTC)). There are also Residential Treatment Center (RTC)'s or community based housing and programs for young women where she might be able to go to get her life turned around. I suggest that you do your research while you wait for her call tomorrow or whenever and figure out a plan of action. Present it to her and make her sign a contract with you. I do not believe that it is realistic to expect such a young difficult child to come up with a plan of their own. The do not have the experience and they are most likely getting (poor) advice from other difficult children.</p><p>Also when they are so depressed and frantic they are usually not thinking straight. You can make a plan and leave room in it for her input but if you really want her to do the right thing she is most likly going to need some guidance. Just try not to get yor emotions all caught up in it. Be informed and be strong and only compromise on the stuff that really doesn't matter. Be realistic without squashing her dreams for a good future. Basically tell her that all things are possible but that she needs to get all these other things squared away first. If she is willing to take the steps that you outline then she might be ready to accept help. Good luck. -RM</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rejectedmom, post: 251097, member: 2315"] You are absolutely correct that she needs to clear up her legal mess before crossing a state line. If you can when she calls back tell her to go to a women's shelter and ask for legal council. I am reasonably certain that she will do very little jail time if any at all. If she is given probation she can have it transferred to your state through the inter-state compact. It takes a couple of weeks to get all the paperwork approved but it can be done. It is done throught he parole or probation office. (I did this to get my difficult child in an out of state Residential Treatment Center (RTC)). There are also Residential Treatment Center (RTC)'s or community based housing and programs for young women where she might be able to go to get her life turned around. I suggest that you do your research while you wait for her call tomorrow or whenever and figure out a plan of action. Present it to her and make her sign a contract with you. I do not believe that it is realistic to expect such a young difficult child to come up with a plan of their own. The do not have the experience and they are most likely getting (poor) advice from other difficult children. Also when they are so depressed and frantic they are usually not thinking straight. You can make a plan and leave room in it for her input but if you really want her to do the right thing she is most likly going to need some guidance. Just try not to get yor emotions all caught up in it. Be informed and be strong and only compromise on the stuff that really doesn't matter. Be realistic without squashing her dreams for a good future. Basically tell her that all things are possible but that she needs to get all these other things squared away first. If she is willing to take the steps that you outline then she might be ready to accept help. Good luck. -RM [/QUOTE]
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