Suzir, and I'll end it here, because this poster will talk to appropriate responders on the other site, yes, going to foster care to seeing his bio. grandma to seeing his birthmother to going back to adoptive parents to the early break from Mom is chaotic for a child. I'm not going to argue, but in this you should maybe go on the adoption forum and learn before posting to people like this. Drug exposure before birth is also putting a child at high risk for attachment disorder. To learn more, I suggest you read some books about this issue from Amazon, rather than just one study. If you read many, THEN you will have some real knowledge.
Can you share your son's early history, including infancy and the rest of his years up until now? If not, you have no right to condemn this woman. You live in another country and, again, how mental health issues are handled vary widely. You tend to downplay some very serious issues. I suspect you live in Scandanavia, maybe Denmark or Norway where everything is done much differently than here. That includes diagnosing and treatment and solutions to problems.
I am in touch with others who have kids like that child. He has been diagnosed. Leave this poster alone, please. I refrained from telling you what I thought about your grown son needing your husband to intervene from him. I think this is a time when doubters should just let it go and post to those they can relate to. If you don't, hopefully Aimless will understand that this is coming from somebody with nada experience. I have no doubt that Aimless is a smart lady who has done her homework and came here to tell the worst, as I did when I came.
It is unhelpful to try to take apart this child's diagnosis and problems. Sounds like she has a lot of knowledge and experience. I assume that whatever you respond with, Aimless will take what is useful and disregard the rest and continue to seek help for her family.
