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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 229345" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Bran, OMG, that poor child. He has no chance. My heart is breaking.</p><p> </p><p>Thank you, Compassion!</p><p> </p><p>Does your daughter have Central Auditory Processing Disorder (CAPD), Compassion? Interesting that she's got some but not all of the behaviors of Daisy's difficult child. I don't see stealing credit cards being cruel as much as being selfish. I was thinking, reading Daisy's note, that it was more like torturing an animal. Did I get that right?</p><p>Can you explain further, Daisy?</p><p> </p><p>Jennifer, my son has kicked the dog, but I think it's more because "he can." At some point, kids realize they are bigger and smarter than many animals and they realize how much control they wield. Once we parents react in a negative way and consistently teach the kids not to take out their frustration on animals, as well as not to tease them or cause them pain just for laughs, they usually stop.</p><p>(And, by reacting in a negative way, I mean an immediate, verbal reaction that can indicate anger and even shame, and then removing the animal. Removal to another room, a safe place, is important. Each time the child hurts the animal, the animal gets taken away. Just like you'd put a toy in Time Out. The toy goes away. When my son was little, I stopped the OMG! What are you doing????? part of it because he already got that part, and just sent the dog away and put my son in Time Out. He lost interest once the animal was out of the room. Never once did he chase after it to continue the behavior.)</p><p> </p><p>Again, am I missing something, Daisy? Is your daughter kicking animals out of frustration, sort of like a pecking order? Or is she seeking it out for the adrenaline rush, being blatantly cruel, like hanging a cat from a tree with-a noose? (Sorry to be gross, but I knew a boy who did that. We all stayed away from him.)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 229345, member: 3419"] Bran, OMG, that poor child. He has no chance. My heart is breaking. Thank you, Compassion! Does your daughter have Central Auditory Processing Disorder (CAPD), Compassion? Interesting that she's got some but not all of the behaviors of Daisy's difficult child. I don't see stealing credit cards being cruel as much as being selfish. I was thinking, reading Daisy's note, that it was more like torturing an animal. Did I get that right? Can you explain further, Daisy? Jennifer, my son has kicked the dog, but I think it's more because "he can." At some point, kids realize they are bigger and smarter than many animals and they realize how much control they wield. Once we parents react in a negative way and consistently teach the kids not to take out their frustration on animals, as well as not to tease them or cause them pain just for laughs, they usually stop. (And, by reacting in a negative way, I mean an immediate, verbal reaction that can indicate anger and even shame, and then removing the animal. Removal to another room, a safe place, is important. Each time the child hurts the animal, the animal gets taken away. Just like you'd put a toy in Time Out. The toy goes away. When my son was little, I stopped the OMG! What are you doing????? part of it because he already got that part, and just sent the dog away and put my son in Time Out. He lost interest once the animal was out of the room. Never once did he chase after it to continue the behavior.) Again, am I missing something, Daisy? Is your daughter kicking animals out of frustration, sort of like a pecking order? Or is she seeking it out for the adrenaline rush, being blatantly cruel, like hanging a cat from a tree with-a noose? (Sorry to be gross, but I knew a boy who did that. We all stayed away from him.) [/QUOTE]
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